This one sentence helps you find true love

I still remember my first date with my boyfriend well. At that moment, I had already had so many failed dates with infinitely vague types behind me that I couldn't imagine that this would suddenly be it. Still, I went his way without reluctance. No one has ever become a worse person from an evening with a handsome and pleasant man, right? And pleasant it was. Even though the spark didn't ignite immediately, we could talk wonderfully, walked hand in hand towards the station where I took the train home, and chatted via WhatsApp when it turned out that I had missed my connection and therefore had to walk quite a bit.

Yet I didn't really know what to think of it. I analyzed his words and behavior with sentences like: he must like me, otherwise he wouldn't be holding my hand, right? and countered that with: but he didn't kiss me. That confusion lasted a few weeks, and recently I admitted to him how long I had been doubting about what he actually thought of me. He responded with something I didn't expect, but which certainly clears the way to love a lot more if you ask me. ‘But what did you actually think of me? Were you even thinking about that?’

There he had me, because I indeed hadn't thought much about that at the time. I was so busy with how he thought of me and whether he was developing feelings that I forgot to form an opinion myself. Of course, I noticed that I liked him, but without clear confirmation that he felt the same way, I didn't even dare to explore that feeling.

So on your next first date, calmly ask yourself what you actually think of the other person and try not to worry about how they feel in return. It's nice if someone likes you, but if you then find out that you actually don't like that person at all, it's also not a story to tell the grandchildren. Happy dating!