If you have this you are not good at being single
Ask a hundred people how it is to be single, and you will get a hundred different answers. Some love it, while others can't wait to dive into a new relationship as soon as possible. Personally, in the six years that I have been single, I have experienced all ends of that spectrum. I went from happy single to an ‘I would love to fall in love again’ mentality and I have really been down in the dumps because I kept attracting the same emotionally unavailable types. Yet, I was always very good at being single. Most of the time, I was fine being alone. I notice that this really helps me in my current relationship. I never cling excessively to my boyfriend, and if we don’t see each other for a few days, I don’t immediately stress out. But what makes a ‘good single’ and how can you ensure that you can embrace your single existence if you’re not so good at being single?
According to research, people who are convinced that marriage is the only way to be happy are the unhappiest singles. Also, people who are afraid of being alone and thus desperately start a relationship don’t have it easy either. Are you divorced, do you have little social support, struggle with attachment issues, or does your family pressure you to find a partner as soon as possible? Then it can also be difficult for you to embrace your single existence, and you are therefore not good at being single.
Happy singles, on the other hand, have the following things in common: they embrace their freedom, creativity, and are more open to new things. They also have little interest in finding a partner and sometimes even prefer to stay single. These people often have a lot of social support, good friendships, and have no problems with attachment. It is even said that happy singles either have a lower libido or a high libido combined with frequent casual encounters. Now, I don’t want to encourage you to have unnecessary one-night stands, but I just wanted to mention it. Do with it what you will.
Getting older also has a positive effect on accepting your single existence. The same research shows that the older single people get, the happier they are. If this article turns out that you are secretly a very unhappy single but you don’t feel like doing anything about it? Then you just have to wait a few years. Easy!
Source: Psychology Today
