Dating Disasters: ‘This man was really a bit too much in every way’

In Dating Disasters anonymous readers share their most embarrassing, cringeworthy, and dramatic dates. This week: a bit too much.

I had a long relationship, so when it was time to start dating again – after our breakup – I assumed there were plenty of nice, sweet, and especially normal types around. I discovered how wrong I was on my date with David.

The date was fine, that wasn't the issue. We chatted nicely, had some drinks, and he paid the bill at the end of the evening. However, I found him very enthusiastic about me, even though he didn't really know me at all. He said he was really looking for a relationship and that I fit very well into that picture according to him. A bit much for a first date, if you ask me.

After our date, I wondered if I even wanted to see him again. I hadn't been single for long and didn't exactly feel the need to dive into a new relationship right away. Especially with someone who could claim like David: he hadn't left me alone for a moment after our date. I received a flood of messages all day, and if I didn't respond right away, he would send a few more messages. They were mostly extremely mindful messages about his bike ride to work, how the sunrise looked through the mist between the trees, how incredibly happy that made him, and whether I was a morning person too. It gave me spontaneous jitters, but not the good kind.

I increasingly felt that he didn't necessarily want me but was just very eager for a relationship. At that moment, I decided to cut things off. I sent him a message saying that my priorities were different at the moment and that I wasn't ready for a relationship. Of course, I expected a disappointed reaction, but what followed was something I never expected. He responded with a Tikkie and the text: ‘Okay, fine, but then I think it's fair to split the first date.’

I paid, I allowed myself that little piece of self-worth, but after that I never spoke to him again. As you can understand, I am not sad about that: this man was really a bit too much in every way.

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