Love & Sex

Science says: this is the reason why you can't have an orgasm

By Sophie Rietmulder | #!31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:005831#31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:00-3Europe\/Amsterdam3131Europe\/Amsterdam202331 01pm31pm-31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:003Europe\/Amsterdam3131Europe\/Amsterdam2023312023Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200153158pmTuesday=9#!31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:00Europe\/Amsterdam8#08-01-2023#!31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:005831#\/31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:00-3Europe\/Amsterdam3131Europe\/Amsterdam202331#!31Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:15:58 +0200+02:00Europe\/Amsterdam8#

It is the most unfair distribution in my group of friends: one reaches climax just by being looked at, while another can fool around for more than half an hour without any result. It is well known that women can have difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse. But what is the cause of this and can we do something about it? In the category of good news: we can absolutely do something about it. It is really just a matter of discovering where your blockage lies, because having difficulty reaching orgasm can be due to the following three things.

Mental health
Our sex life is greatly influenced by our mental health. Not to be confused with emotional health, which determines how we feel in our skin. Mental health is more about our ability to process information. If our brains do not process information correctly, this will most likely affect our emotional health, in other words: if you are mentally tangled, you are automatically emotionally tangled as well. These two areas are very important for our sexual functioning and sense of satisfaction. Seeking help to get your mental health back on track can help remove this blockage.

Poor communication
Many couples struggle to communicate effectively, especially when it comes to problems in the bedroom. If you are dissatisfied or not enjoying sex as much as you would like, it is still important to communicate that with your partner. Standing up for your own needs is essential here. If those needs are not met, sexually or otherwise, it can create a huge blockage in your relationship and sex life. If you are unable to resolve it together, you can seek the help of a therapist. It may feel like a big step, but it can greatly help your sex life and ultimately strengthen your relationship.

Physical aspects
Newsflash: as many as one in four women has a pelvic floor dysfunction that can affect their sexual satisfaction and ability to orgasm. Additionally, women often struggle with bladder and bowel issues, painful intercourse, low libido, and vaginal dryness. You may never think about it, but your pelvic floor health is an essential part of your sexual health. A misalignment of our pelvic floor can lead to nerve compression and reduced sensation down there. This is not only related to weak pelvic floor muscles, but also pelvic floor muscles that are too tight or overstrained can make reaching orgasm more difficult. Pelvic floor exercises can help improve the ability to orgasm, the intensity of orgasms, and your overall sexual satisfaction.

Source: Poosh