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This is how you know if you should actually end your relationship

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This is how you know if you should end your relationship

Is your relationship in dire straits and/or are you actually feeling down with your current partner? This happens often and you won't be the only one or the last, but these are still difficult decisions. Personally, I always find it such a shame when I see people staying in hopeless relationships for so long; they both know they would be happier without each other, or with someone else, and yet they find it hard to really tie the knot. According to psychologists, however, there are some clear signs that it really is better to end a relationship; these four points are very important, according to them.

1. Your future plans are not aligned
If you want to grow old together, it's pretty important to have somewhat similar goals and dreams; after all, fantasising about things like that together also creates a stronger bond. And even though it's important to make concessions sometimes, on certain issues it's just not possible. Don't you want children but your partner does? Or would one prefer to move to a completely different city, maybe even another country, but the other would rather stay where you are now? These can all happen and are not one person's fault, but these are issues in which neither of you should compromise. Maybe then, unfortunately, it's just not meant to be.

2. Confidence is broken
Most of course, this stems from cheating and/or having affairs. Some couples come out of it somewhat with a lot of therapy and hard work on their relationship, but in most cases the trust can no longer be restored. The annoying thing is that you both often don't want to throw in the towel, even though you both know the trust is no longer there. In this case, you often see couples eventually, but far too late, break up. Therefore, be honest with yourself if you no longer fully trust your partner.

3. The passion is gone
Sometimes there is no particular reason why the spark has extinguished; sometimes you just feel deep inside that this is not it. Maybe you are missing something, maybe it is a feeling deep inside that this person is not the right one for you. Wherever it comes from: if your heart is no longer in it, it's time to end it.

4. Therapy does not work
It may be that your relationship has been in dire straits for some time but you want to do everything possible to make it work anyway. Relationship therapy can work very well for some couples, but by no means for everyone. Of course, it's good that you want to save your relationship, but if after a while you find that relationship therapy is not making a difference, it might be time to think carefully about the future of your relationship.

Source: Psychology Today