Happy singles do this differently than unhappy singles
When I was single, there was one question I absolutely hated: ‘But you are happy single, right?’ I had no idea, I always thought. Because when exactly are you a happy single? When you jump out of bed every day feeling blissfully happy because you woke up alone? When you regularly pop open a bottle and toast to your single life? I was just single and I was completely fine with that, but if someone enjoyed being part of my life and we were also a little in love with each other, then I was completely fine with that too. Whether you could call me a ‘happy single’ I don't know, but I was certainly not unhappy. Yet there is indeed a big difference between happy and unhappy singles; research has even been done on this. The things happy singles do differently than unhappy singles are discussed below:
1. Happy singles love the freedom to organize their own lives exactly as they want. From the structure of their daily activities to major life-changing choices. They love that they don't have to involve anyone in this.
2. They use that freedom to lead a joyful, meaningful, and fulfilling life. Happy singles are known for pursuing their interests and passions, thus leading an authentic life in which their choices reflect who they are.
3. Happy singles enjoy being alone. They love the time they have for themselves instead of kicking against it or being afraid of it. As a result, they actually never feel lonely, which is handy when you spend a lot of time by yourself.
4. They appreciate the ability to determine for themselves who is important to them instead of being stuck in the position of making a partner the most important person in their life. In the lives of happy singles, potential partners generally play a less prominent role than themselves.
5. As a result, they automatically invest more in their friendships and other people who are important to them. They will never let a potential partner stand in the way of the relationships they have already built with these people. A case of: bros before hoes if you will.
6. You might be surprised, but research has shown that happy singles have the most love to give. Because they invest so much time in loving themselves and their loved ones, they have a much broader view of love and thus have much more love to share. ‘Love yourself first’ may be a cliché, but it is true in this case.
7. Happy singles not only invest more in their relationships with their loved ones but also in their own lives. They often have meaningful work that makes them happy, make choices that feel good to them, and ensure that they can always rely on themselves. Whether they end up in a relationship later or not, happy singles ensure that they can always take care of themselves in this way, which leads to significantly less stress and more happiness in the long run.
Source: Psychology Today
