4 forms of self-sabotage that you are also guilty of
This is a list that I should probably hang above my own bed, because I know myself a bit too well in this. Well, self-sabotage: many of us are guilty of this. And that's a shame, and especially unnecessary, because in the end it only costs you energy and doesn't make you happier. According to psychologists, there are four things we do en masse without realizing it, which leads to self-sabotage. So are you guilty of one of these four points? Better stop quickly then.
1. Thinking: I don't deserve this or asking yourself: do I deserve this?
Sometimes it can be hard to believe or accept that so many things are going well in your life. This goes hand in hand with imposter syndrome, which can make you think that you don't deserve certain things, while you rationally know that you've worked hard for them. And the more you start to doubt this, the more you get in your own way for future successes. That's why you need to unlearn that someone else could do something ‘better’ than you, or ‘deserves it more’ — try to be genuinely happy for yourself.
2. Immediately blaming yourself when something goes wrong
If you immediately decide: ‘this is my fault, I messed everything up’ when something goes wrong, then you're not addressing the problem and/or the cause. Actually, you're giving yourself an easy way out by blaming yourself right away, but you ultimately don't learn from what went wrong. Additionally, you give yourself a bad feeling and convince yourself that you really can't do it. Instead, try to analyze the problem well and determine where something went wrong, so you can learn a lesson from it.
3. Expressing too much negativity
It can be very tempting to complain a lot, gossip, and be disapproving. But that's also the danger: if you lose yourself in this, that negativity rebounds on yourself. That sounds very logical, yet not everyone stops to think about it. By complaining less and being less negative about others, you ultimately become a person who is a lot more positive, and that urge to be so negative also diminishes. That's what you radiate to others.
4. Procrastination
Well, I'm afraid we have all been guilty of this almost all of us. You know you have something to do, something to finish, and yet you put on that Netflix series... According to psychologists, the trick to dealing with this is to ask yourself why you are procrastinating. Often you quickly think: I just don't feel like it; then ask yourself why you don't feel like it. By analyzing the task you need to do, there's a good chance you'll realize that it actually isn't that big of a deal, and then you'll go ahead and do it right away.
Source: Happier Human | Image: Everything Now Netflix
