Love & Sex

What if you want more sex than your partner?

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Not everyone has the same desires and your own desires are not always the same either. It is completely normal to have periods in a relationship where one partner has more need for intimacy than the other. For some couples, this is a issue they deal with throughout the entire relationship. Fortunately, this does not have to mean that you are not a match. LotteLust gives advice.

Sex is not a priority right now
When you are tired, sick, or stressed, many people have much less desire for sex, and that is only logical. At certain phases of your life, the focus is simply on something other than sex. It can be a short period, such as an exam week, but it can also be that you have a very intense year where you are working towards a promotion, resulting in long days, often being tired, and having ten thousand other things on your mind. If you are in such a period, we recommend discussing this with your partner. Ideally, you are both aware of each other's actions and feelings, but it is not always obvious that your partner can guess your feelings and needs. If it is the other way around: you feel good, nice, and sexy and want to have sex regularly, but your partner has a lot on their mind, dare to ask about it. If you both express to each other that it has nothing to do with the other, no one needs to feel rejected. Intensive training can also affect the desire for sex: read an article here on this subject.

Excuses
As tempting as it may be to use one of these popular excuses , we still recommend not doing it. If you have a strong relationship, you should be able to be honest about your feelings and needs. If your partner expresses to you that a session of sex is not possible tonight, you should respect this. Assure each other that you still find the other attractive, sweet, fun, and pleasant, and dare to believe this when it is told to you. Just because your partner is not in the mood for a hot session every time you are, does not mean that you do not like each other. People are simply different from each other, and it would be extremely coincidental if two people had exactly the same sexual needs.

Open conversation
If you notice that you systematically have a greater need for intimacy than your partner, try to have a conversation about it. Of course, you do not want to make your partner feel that the other cannot satisfy. you. For example, say that you like the other so much that you would love to cuddle and play together often. Also mention that you will not be offended if the other occasionally indicates they are not in the mood, and make sure to put this into practice. No one wants sex with a partner who is not really in the mood, so be careful not to force your partner or keep persuading them until they say ‘yes.’.

Difference is normal
A large difference in sexual needs can lead to frustration. Remember that almost every couple deals with this kind of ‘problems’ and try to communicate openly about it with your partner as best as you can.

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