You absolutely should not say this to your recently dumped girlfriend

When it comes to my girlfriends, I would go through fire to see them happy. I don't know what it is, but if anyone even thinks about making one of my girlfriends unhappy, I immediately go into fight mode. Once, I drove like a bat out of hell to my best friend because her extremely controlling ex kept ringing the doorbell, no matter how many times she asked him to leave. The fact that he was about a meter taller than me and could probably push me over with one finger didn't matter to me. Like a lioness protecting her cubs, I sent him packing and comforted my friend until she was calm again. In hindsight, I was probably a bit too high on my energy at that moment. Much later, I learned that you can do a lot of good when your friend is going through a tough break-up, but that you should definitely avoid saying the following things.

‘It's better this way’
How often has this, or another harsh statement, slipped out of your mouth after you tried to slowly piece together your friend's broken heart? It's quite sad, really, that we are so often busy repairing hearts that we haven't even broken ourselves. But okay, even though it's probably just fine this way and you likely know better how to deal with those heart shards than her weak ex, your friend really doesn't benefit from this. Keep statements like ‘I never liked him/her’ or ‘he/she probably cheated’ absolutely to yourself. This only causes more sadness and confusion.

‘There are plenty of fish in the sea’
Okay, it's over and you can finally go on an adventure in the Amsterdam nightlife again, but all the single fish are still the ugliest, most unwanted sperm whales in the sea for her right now. Moreover, your friend is probably not at all open to any kind of new relationship at this moment, and the last thing you want to do is push her towards a rebound. Wait a bit with these kinds of statements until her sadness has faded a bit and she dares to look cautiously optimistic towards the future.

‘This is why I never date’
Okay, thanks for this clear moment of self-awareness, but no one is waiting for this. And besides: it's not about you right now. Unfortunately, your friend doesn't have the option to travel back in time to undo her entire relationship, so there is zero reason for comments suggesting that she made a mistake. With this kind of judgment, shaming, and criticizing, you achieve nothing more than a broken friendship.

Source: Well and Good