If you don't feel sexual tension after this number of dates, something is wrong

The first few dates with a new love are always super exciting. Not only because you want to show your best side, but also because you don’t really know the person opposite you that well yet. It may be that you’ve known each other for a bit longer, but that it’s only after years that something other than ‘just having a good time’ is felt. Precisely because those first few dates are already exciting, it can sometimes be difficult to determine whether the excitement you feel comes solely from the idea of dating or if that excitement is also leaning more towards the sexy side. After how many dates should you be able to distinguish that sexual tension from the ‘ordinary’ tension?

Well, you should be able to let go of that ‘new date’ tension after two dates. Not that you shouldn’t be nervous for the date at all, but you should at least recognize that it’s more about looking forward to it than real tension. The sexual tension between you and your lover is of course really important if you want to make something fun together, and that should already be present fairly early on.

If after two dates you notice that you still don’t feel like having an extensive kissing session, you can be sure that it probably won’t come anymore. If you do have a great time together, you can certainly see if those sexual desires still surface during kissing. If this is not the case, at least you’ve gained a nice friendship from it.