These signals indicate that it is time to end your relationship

Doubts in a relationship are completely normal. There are always fun or less fun sides to someone. The choice is yours to determine how important those things are to you in a relationship with that person. It may well be that as the relationship lasts longer, you start to doubt more and more how suitable your lover really is for you. That doesn't mean they are a bad person, or that you have real problems with each other. It's probably about the little things that start to rub over the long term.

For example, I once experienced that my then-lover invited me to a party where I would meet all his friends for the first time. I had, of course, completely envisioned how that moment would go. Carefully thought about the clothes I would wear, how he would introduce me, and how I would happily greet the group. Everything to make the best impression. Unfortunately, reality turned out very differently. My lover was inside, still arranging some small things. The friends were outside. I thought; I'll wait a bit. Unfortunately, my lover was under the impression that I would introduce myself. There I was. Saying hello to a group of people I didn't know, who didn't know me, and I noticed there was limited interest in my entire presence. To sum it up: I was quite disappointed. It seemed as if my beloved had never talked about me with his boys. Red flag. And it didn't take long before the story between us came to an end. It might have been just a small moment, and there was no fight over it. But it was a significant incident for me. Because of this, I learned a bit more about the person he was. And I felt worthless because of how this introduction had gone.

There are more of these kinds of small moments to think of: it's not that the bomb bursts all at once, like when someone cheats. It can be something small that starts to gnaw, that sits in the back of your mind, and that you know is actually more important to you than you would like to admit. The miscommunications that you used to laugh about, the sex life that becomes dull, the interest in each other's lives, the sweet words that seem to come from only one side, the difference in how proud one is of the other, or simply a difference in effort to keep the relationship alive. You can rationalize it all for yourself. And yet, these are the things that keep you awake at night. It's that gnawing feeling in your stomach, the little stings of information that ignite your overthinking. Those are the signals that tell you it's time to end your relationship. It doesn't get easier, but know that in the long run, you will be glad you made this decision. That you will eventually realize that something better was waiting around the corner for you too.