This is how you know if jealousy in your relationship is unjustified
It can happen that you occasionally have some jealous feelings in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes it comes from seeing your partner receiving a lot of attention from others, and in that respect, it’s quite nice to notice that you want to keep doing your best to keep your loved one happy. But suppose there is one specific person that makes you jealous over and over again, in such a way that you really start to wonder if that person is beginning to pose a threat to your relationship, then it might be helpful to check for yourself based on these points whether your jealousy is unjustified.
1. Your loved one tells you about that person on their own. And then it’s about them having spoken to that person, or something else noteworthy regarding that person. If it’s all unnecessary trivia, you might start to think at some point: why do we have to talk about that person again? But generally, the rule is: if your partner talks about contact they have with someone on their own, then that person is not a threat. It would be very foolish for that person to unnecessarily come into your view.
2. The conversations between that person and your partner are not about exciting things. Work, vacations, children; these are all things that cannot exactly be labeled as sexy.
3. You have been in the same room with that other person more often. Your loved one does not keep you away from each other because there is no danger. In such a case, you can just talk to that person; you might find that they are just a nice person who has a very happy love life and therefore has no desire to cheat.
4. The moment you tell your loved one that you feel jealous, they respond very calmly, instead of getting angry or defensive. A loyal partner does not need to fight for their right, because there is no doubt in their mind. Nothing is going on, and your loved one trusts that this will eventually be proven. Of course, the jealousy must stop at some point, otherwise, there will be arguments about the ongoing unjustified jealous behavior.
5. You realize that your jealousy comes from past experiences and relationships. Address this, and the jealousy will disappear. It is not fair to accuse someone else of things your ex has done. You wouldn’t like it either if your partner compared you to their exes in that way.
The most important solution is communication with your sweetheart. Don’t quietly sit in a corner being jealous, and don’t explode with anger when you see a like on that one Insta photo. Just calmly explain that you notice a certain person causes you jealous feelings, then you also give your partner the chance to alleviate those feelings.
