Why it's good if you initially hated your lover

It may be a strange story and it probably doesn't happen very often, but when I got to know my partner, I really found him to be an incredibly annoying little man. We had to work together for a few months, but I got the impression that he was doing a lot of ‘mansplaining’. As if he thought I didn't understand what we were talking about in meetings. I'm not very good at brushing off those kinds of irritations, which led to us getting into discussions quite regularly. We both counted down the days until we no longer had to work together, it was that impossible for us.

Yet something strange eventually happened, because after one team dinner, the hatchet was buried. It was only then that we saw how we were in an informal, social setting and we accidentally turned out to have a great time. By now, quite some time has passed and I still find it funny to think back to how stupid I found him in those first few months of knowing him. It even seems that those discussions back then were good for something. After all, we have seen each other's ugliest sides and know how nasty we can be, but we also now know that it ultimately isn't that bad how annoying the other person is. That comes in handy when we still disagree about something nowadays.

Maybe it's actually good to first experience the most annoying and unpleasant side of your partner, because their nice sides then stand out even more once you're open to seeing them. It's not without reason that so many romcoms have been created about the theme of the main character and those annoying colleagues who suddenly fall madly in love with each other. It's really based on true stories.