Why make-up sex is not good for your relationship

A big argument is the recipe for fantastic sex. The heated discussion turns into a hot sex session because you both feel the need to show each other what you can lose if this continues. Putting in a lot of effort for each other because such an argument slightly ignites the fear that your relationship is at stake.

But why is this bad for your relationship? Well, it may happen that you start seeking smaller arguments, with the goal of having that overwhelmingly delicious make-up sex again. This has a counterproductive effect when you consider what you would want. Your relationship can end up in somewhat toxic waters because you start becoming increasingly toxic towards each other. Arguments are not resolved with make-up sex, but rather masked under a layer of heat. Ultimately, this does not help you progress in your relationship. Of course, the most important thing for your relationship is to talk everything out and try to understand each other's viewpoints. Sex should not be the band-aid for an unpleasant argument.

But once you've talked things out, it is of course wonderful to have some sort of make-up sex. However, you actually don't need an argument at all to have that little bit of extra spicy sex with each other. If you find the tension surrounding it very exciting, you can also try to find other ways to create that tension together. Maybe try a role play, bring toys into the bedroom, or have sex in different places? Let your imagination run wild!