December is the month of breakups

You say December, you say cozy Christmas atmosphere. But the month secretly also brings a lot of stress. The last deadlines of the year and all the preparations for the holidays really test our holiday spirit. And all that tension can put quite a strain on your relationship. On December 11th research shows that most couples even break up. But, no panic: with the ‘See It Say It’ rule, you and your partner will survive this busy time easy peasy.

Appreciate the little things

In this busy month, you sometimes can't see the forest for the (Christmas) trees. It feels like an endless race of deadlines, year-end parties, and the hunt for Christmas gifts. And then that family dinner still needs to be planned. Once home, you are completely exhausted and would prefer to crawl into bed as soon as possible. In this hectic time, it may sometimes feel like you and your partner are living completely past each other and your relationship is shifting a bit to the background. And if you are both so busy, irritations about who should do which household task are always waiting for you under the Christmas tree. How do you prevent losing each other completely and all the stress putting a strain on your relationship? The ‘See It Say It’ rule will be your guardian angel this Christmas. This ‘rule’ works like this: focus on the little things you appreciate about your partner or what he does. And, even more importantly: say it out loud. How nice is it when you come home after a busy day and the kitchen is already tidy? It's very easy to take this for granted, but naming it strengthens your relationship. Your partner feels seen and appreciated.

Be creative

Of course, you prefer to give those compliments face-to-face, but in this busy month, that doesn't always work. Therefore, you sometimes have to be a bit creative with the rule. Perhaps my favorite way to do this is by writing a note. How romantic would it be if you suddenly find a small love note somewhere in the house or in your bag saying how happy your partner is with you? That is sometimes exactly what you need to get through the day. A second option: call when you're on the way. I surely can't be the only one who has to run a bit in the morning to get out the door on time. In the rush, you don't always have time to chat with your partner. Once in the car or on the train, you can take that moment of peace and call each other to ask how things are going and thank him for the to-go coffee he already prepared. If you really want to say it face-to-face, you'll need a bit more patience. When you both catch your breath at the end of the day, you can discuss your day with each other and also all the little things you are grateful for. It brings you closer together again. And how nice is it to go to sleep with such a positive feeling? Your relationship can handle the world (and December stress) again.

Source: The Every Girl