Experts say: this is why quiet intimacy is a must for your relationship
When you think of intimacy, you probably think of everything that happens in the bedroom. Not a wrong thought, of course, but there is also a whole other side. TikTok is captivated by ‘quiet intimacy’, celebrating the simple moments between couples. And it turns out this is not unjustified: according to experts, this form of intimacy is the hallmark of a strong relationship.
The little things
Unlike ‘ordinary’ intimacy quiet intimacy is not necessarily about the physical connection with your partner. It focuses much more on the emotional bond and the feeling of trust between you. It is often the small (unspoken) moments that make your relationship feel safe and personal, and thus stronger. According to psychologist Mark Travers, those little actions where you help the other or show your appreciation create a feeling of love and connection. Pouring your partner's favorite drink without being asked for your evening on the couch or preparing breakfast in advance when the other has a busy day; it's not about grand romantic gestures, but rather simple things that show you are thinking of the other. Here are a few more suggestions on how to use quiet intimacy: for example, watch your partner's favorite movie together, even if you almost fall asleep. Or leave a sweet note if you have to leave for work earlier. Spontaneous compliments always work well too. Less is more.
Improve your relationship
Quiet intimacy is more than just a TikTok trend; according to relationship experts, it is truly a must to work on this with your partner. And there are several reasons for that.
1. Better non-verbal communication
According to relationship therapist Jamie Ratowiski, non-verbal communication may be even more important than talking to each other. Your gaze and body language can say a lot about what you think or feel. The longer you are together, the better you will understand each other in this regard. This way, with quiet intimacy, you can be there for your partner before the other has dared or been able to express it. Something like a hug after a tough day can give the other that feeling of safety and connection, without (immediately) needing words. Only you understand each other this way and know what to do, and that makes you even closer.
2. Stronger connection
The longer you are together, the more the real effort will fade. Holding each other's hand to show that you really like the other may feel less necessary. Still, it is important to keep doing these kinds of little things. By seeking that connection for a moment or doing something for the other without being asked, you show that the relationship still means just as much to you and that you are still willing to invest time and energy in it. And if we are honest, it is also wonderful to know that someone is completely willing to go for you.
3. It improves your sex life
All those little actions ensure that ordinary intimacy also improves. This is because quiet intimacy makes you feel seen and safe with your partner. As a result, you are also more likely to be honest about your desires in the bedroom. According to Dr. Brené Brown, a professor at the University of Houston, those who share this feeling of safety have more satisfying experiences in bed. You can also see quiet intimacy as a kind of foreplay. You emphasize that trust and the bond you share, and may initiate a very pleasant evening. couples Source: The Every Girl, Image: Nobody Wants This, Netflix.
When you think of intimacy, you might think of what happens in the bedroom, but there is another side. TikTok is a fan of 'quiet intimacy', and for a reason...
