Gone libido: what can you do if you yourself no longer feel like having sex?

You just don't have the energy for it. No fuss on your body, no desire for that whole parade of a quickie. You just want to take a nice shower, scroll on your phone in a clean bed, throw some more items in your online shopping cart, and then sleep wonderfully. Sex? Please, not.

But yes. It is a bit boring, maybe. For the relationship. So how do you approach it when your libido is gone? What if you yourself never want to have sex again?

Well, talk about it. Take the pressure off. A common reaction to low libido is the feeling that you “have to” perform in bed, for example during a night in a hotel, which can actually backfire. Try to let go of the pressure around sex and give yourself time. Because it will really come back, but not if you feel you ‘have to’ so much. First, make sure to rest well. Do what makes you happier and gives you more energy. Fatigue is one of the biggest culprits when it comes to low libido. Getting enough sleep helps improve your energy and mood.

Sometimes easier said than done, we know. But still try it: go to bed on time and you will see that the next day you feel a bit better in your skin. Also check your pill: could it be due to the hormones you are taking? Are you under a lot of stress? That all plays a role in bed. A little exercise can also be good. Physical activity improves blood circulation, increases your energy level, and promotes the production of endorphins, which benefits your mood and libido. You will also feel better in your skin, which may make you more daring in bed.

And... Test yourself. Sometimes it helps to rediscover your own sexuality. This can mean taking more time for self-care and self-exploration, such as masturbation, to get to know your body better. You can also experiment with what you find attractive or discover new things that excite you sexually. You know, you have to get those orgasms from somewhere. Now just that feeling. You can do it.