Matchmakers say: these are 3 red flags in your date's house

If you've been dating for a while and are increasingly visiting each other's homes, it's time to pay close attention. The decor can tell you a lot about the person you're dating. Matchmaker April Davis listed a number of red flags. If you see the following things in your ‘partner's’ home, you might want to start questioning whether this is really for you.

Extreme clutter

I don't mean just one unwashed plate on the counter, but truly random objects everywhere. That everyone knows: nothing is in the place it should be. Although clutter itself doesn't necessarily have to be a dealbreaker, according to Davis, it’s about the underlying cause. “It can mean that your partner is struggling with emotional overwhelm or avoiding dealing with personal issues.” Someone who is too stressed will find things like cleaning at home less important. If your partner doesn't pay attention to their own home, it could also mean, according to Davis, that they won't have a problem neglecting other things; for example, your relationship. You certainly don't want that to happen.

Photos of an ex

This may sound very logical, but you would be surprised how often a photo of an ex pops up somewhere. The fact that your partner has kept these pictures isn't necessarily a problem. Maybe it was a vacation that had been on the bucket list for years. When that red flag starts waving is when it’s those specific photos that are prominently displayed in the house. “If your partner hasn't taken steps to remove these images, it may indicate unresolved feelings or emotional baggage,” says Davis. You might wonder if the other person has really moved on from that ex and can fully invest in your relationship. You certainly never want to feel like a second choice.

A whole drawer full of takeout menus

I also love ordering sushi from time to time. But if you find a drawer full of takeout menus at your partner's place, you might want to raise some questions. It can be a sign that the other person isn't really interested in household chores. As long as you don't live together, you might be less affected by this. But if that happens in the future, it could lead to conflicts according to Davis. “Over time, your partner's reluctance to cook may manifest as an unwillingness to help with household tasks.” It may seem a bit forward-thinking, but you know what (probably) awaits you.

No panic

If you notice any of these things, it doesn't mean, according to Davis, that your relationship has to be over immediately. By talking to your partner about it, you can find out what ideas and causes are behind it. This way, you also discover whether you can change these habits together. If not, it might be better to choose yourself.

Source: Pure Wow