These are the signs that someone is stringing you along
You like someone and want to go all in, but there’s still that feeling that something isn’t right. You’re trying really hard, but not getting anything back. I don’t want to push you off your pink cloud, but there’s a good chance someone is stringing you along. No matter how painful it is, it’s better to discover it quickly. If you recognize the following signals, it might be good to go back to being single.
No interest in your family and friends
Meeting each other's parents doesn’t have to happen right away; it’s quite a big step. But if you’ve been dating for a while and he/she still doesn’t want to know anything about your family and friends, that’s a red flag. If you also haven’t been introduced to anyone, you can be almost certain: the other person wants to keep the relationship casual and isn’t looking for something serious.
Often canceling (last minute)
You’ve made plans and something comes up; that can always happen, of course. You really don’t need to worry right away. But if you notice that this happens very often and there’s always a new excuse? Then the alarm bells go off, and your relationship is less important to your date than it is to you.
Your relationship doesn’t have a name
Situationship, pre-la, or fling. With all these names, it can sometimes be hard to know where you stand. Still, it’s good to discuss this from time to time because ideally, you’ll eventually get to that rela(tionship). If that conversation keeps getting postponed while you’re already ready for it? Then that’s probably a sign that your ‘partner’ doesn’t want to take that step and you won’t be moving forward.
A lot of words, few actions
Are all sorts of fun dates or vacations promised or said to take you to family, but this never happens? Then you should start questioning whether it will actually happen. Saying something is easy, but doing it is another thing. A relationship simply means putting in effort for each other. If you keep getting disappointed in this, it might be better to choose yourself.
Never wanting to talk about the future
When you start a relationship, you hope for a long future together. Fantasizing about that is of course super fun and exciting, at least if you both want that. If the other keeps avoiding that conversation, it might mean that he or she doesn’t see a future together at all. For now, being together is good, but in the long run, it doesn’t have to be. Well, you’d better not waste your time on that.
You always have to take the initiative
A relationship should come from both sides. Sometimes you organize something, and other times your partner does. It can’t be that you’re always the one who takes the first step or starts the conversation. If this is the case, your partner might not be as interested as you had hoped. It’s good to think about how much effort you want to put into this.
All or nothing
One moment you can’t get enough of each other, and everything is great. The next moment, you don’t talk for days. Such an all-or-nothing situation is very confusing and especially very exhausting. You never really know where you stand and whether the other person is really that involved or wants to be. The relationship costs more energy than you get back, and that can’t be the intention. You deserve better.
