This is how you know if someone really fits you
When you meet a new ‘love interest’, it can sometimes be quite confusing what you really feel for that person. Is it just lust or could you really be a good match? And then there are those types who know exactly what to say to make you believe that they take it as seriously as you do. If you are sensitive to the attention of others and sometimes let yourself be led astray, it is good to look rationally at both of your traits, so you can determine whether a long-term relationship could really work.
These are a few of the things that most relationships break down on when the dating phase should transition into a relationship:
No shared interests
One of you is extremely passionate about politics and protests on the A10 for the climate, while the other prefers to fly back and forth to Australia every few months. This may be a very extreme example, but if you have no shared interests, even if it's just that you both enjoy watching football, it will become difficult in the long run.
Many couples seem a bit alike
It certainly won't apply to everyone, but especially in the queer community, it is often the case that couples resemble each other a bit. For example, you don't often see a very large, muscular man with a small, skinny type. But of course, nothing is excluded. Still, it is often the first impression that determines how strong your mutual attraction is, and you see that many people like to look at someone who resembles themselves.
The same humor, even if you don't like to laugh
Don't underestimate how important humor is, even for those who say they don't find it important. It's nice to be able to laugh a lot together. If you really don't like to laugh, it's important that you don't date someone who wants to make puns all day long. Otherwise, you'll end up completely crazy, right? And of course, humor often helps through difficult times. Laughing together also means lightening the mood, and that's exactly what you need when everything seems to be going wrong.
Having the same lifestyle
Quite obvious: if one person loves to book an all-inclusive vacation to lie on the beach for as long as possible and eat and drink as much as possible, it becomes a bad match with someone who likes to go on adventures and engage in activities like mountain biking. Cultural exploration is hard to combine with beach sessions.
Family ties
What is the relationship like with the other person's family? Does that person value it just as much (or little) as you do? How is their family structured and what role does family still play in your loved one's life? You might think that family has nothing to do with your relationship, but ultimately it is quite important when you do or do not celebrate Christmas together. It is also generally true that your lover has learned a lot from their upbringing regarding relationships; how parents interact with each other is a direct example of how the children will do that later. Of course, there are exceptions.
Sharing hobbies
It is of course nice to have at least one shared hobby. Tennis, gaming, hiking, or watching 50s movies on the couch; it doesn't matter what it is. If you have something that you both enjoy a lot, something you can do together and reminisce about, then that is very beneficial for your bond.
