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Single man reveals: all women want a threesome for one night

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Single man reveals: all women want a threesome for one night
Okay, imagine this: you’re having a cozy time with a few old friends in a restaurant. Everything is nice, the atmosphere is relaxed. But then, without any warning, the subject comes up. “Have you ever thought about a threesome?” asks one of your friends. And yes, there it is. The threesome topic is on the table. And me? I have no idea how to respond to this. Because no, I have no experience in this. Yes, I’ve heard about it. And yes, I have indeed fantasized about it, but now that it’s really on the table, the question is: is this the new trend? Or better said, is this what is expected of me in the dating world? It turns out that this scenario, or something close to it, is happening more and more often. My friends, whom I’ve known for so long and with whom I discuss everything, want this (not with me, because we are best friends). But honestly: who would have thought? Women, yes, women, are now starting to bring up the idea of a One Night Threesome themselves. But how exactly does that work? Why do women seem to be massively searching for this sexual experience now, and what does this mean for the dynamics in my dating world?

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What do women actually want?

A lot of research has been done on threesomes, but hello: it’s not just ‘a fun sexual experience’. No, women apparently have different reasons for wanting a threesome. Some want to explore their bisexuality, others might just be curious. And then preferably once rather than later in a committed relationship. Women are developing much more in the sexual field. And by the way, don’t forget the women who are in a relationship: they might see a threesome as a way to fix something in their relationship. Maybe they want to fulfill a sexual fantasy of their partner, or maybe they just want to add some adventure to their relationship.

The fantasy vs. reality

Threesomes are indeed the most common sexual fantasy ever: research shows that as many as 95% of men and 87% of women have fantasized about it. So yes, that’s quite a lot. But (and this is really very important): reality is often very different from fantasy. It may all sound exciting and hot, but most people who have actually tried a threesome indicate that it’s not quite what they had imagined. Yes, you might think: “Two men or two women? Why not!” But you really need to understand what all comes with it.

The consequences of the threesome

But hey, let’s be very honest: not everyone is mentally ready for it, right? To share the bed with a third person. Sure, for one night that seems more suitable to me. Because that’s without feelings, just for the fun of it. But inviting a third person when you have a committed relationship…. The reactions of people in a threesome can also be very different. Especially in relationships that want to try this just once, jealousy can arise, even if you thought that wouldn’t happen. But the chemistry between the people in bed plays a much bigger role than you think. Expectations need to be clear before you take such a step, otherwise awkward moments can arise. What if one gives more attention to the other? Or what if you feel like you’re not really part of the whole?

There are so many stories of men who thought they were completely in control, but later realized that it wasn’t that easy. Jealousy often plays a bigger role than you expected. The perfect threesome may not really exist; in most cases, it’s just about seeking sexual renewal, but that comes with its own challenges.

The modern man and the threesome

So, what does this mean for men like me, who are just active in the regular dating world? Not all men need this. A threesome might be a way for some men to fulfill a fantasy, but for me, it might just be too much hassle. And what if the experience isn’t as satisfying as you thought? And what if the dynamics are uncomfortable? That seems so embarrassing to me.

Okay, let’s keep it simple first: threesomes are not for everyone. But there’s something fascinating about the way more and more women seem to be open to it. And I understand that this is best with two people for a change. Because love shouldn’t come into play. That makes it complicated. I get it, it’s the search for adventure, the desire to push sexual boundaries. And while the fantasy of many men probably remains the same: two women, one man, we need to realize that reality is very different. Because many women might prefer to see themselves with two men. Who knows, maybe the moment will come when I’m ready for it. For now, I’ll stick to the fantasy, with a blonde identical twin. That much is true.

And if you have a steady partner, I advise you: good communication with your partner is essential.
Because, as with everything, sex is not a “one size fits all”.

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