Huh? You can have an orgasm without using your hands even once
Eh… what? Yes, I can already hear your brain cracking. Getting an orgasm without using your hands? That sounds like a mission impossible. I actually thought so too, until I was scrolling last night and saw this with my own eyes to my surprise. Apparently, you can reach your climax without any manual labor. How do you do that, you ask? Well, not by Pirates of the Caribbean 2 watching Orlando Bloom over and over again to get in the mood, this method is really quite different. How you achieve this almost spiritual awakening, you will learn here.
You don’t just get a ‘hands-free orgasm’
Getting an orgasm just by using your thoughts sounds a bit too good to be true. As if you suddenly have Jedi powers and use the Force like an invisible vibrator. No, unfortunately, you really have to put in a bit more effort to achieve such an orgasm. It’s not meant for someone else to get involved. No sex toys, no fingers, no lubricant: this is pure feeling.
That sounds crazy, but it has been researched. Professor Dr. Barry Komisaruk and sexologist Dr. Beverly Whipple even wrote thebook The Science of Orgasm about it. In it, they describe that your climax is part of your emotional and cognitive process. In plain human language, that means your brain is the driver and not a passenger who also enjoys a bit. Actually, your brain determines what you enjoy, and that is the secret of the hands-free orgasm. Breathing exercises, meditation, intense focus, and vivid sexual fantasies are, according to them, all you need. But yes, just daydreaming won’t get you an orgasm, of course.
How to actually achieve such an intense orgasm
You really need more than just putting on some porn. It may not be a workout, but it definitely takes energy and effort. Not from your abs, but from the most important muscles you have: your brain.
Breathing techniques
To achieve such a life-changing orgasm, you really need to focus. One way to do that is through breathing techniques. By breathing slowly and consciously, you give your body the chance to relax and clear your mind. So don’t think about your grocery list or the fact that you’d rather get that vibrator out of your nightstand. According to sexologist Mariah Freya that combination of relaxation and focus is important to shift all attention to your body and ultimately achieve an orgasm. Think of it as a warm-up: your brain needs to come out of stress mode before it can even make room for pleasure. Without that relaxation, you really won’t get an orgasm. Then you’ll just lie there like a starfish on dry land.
Dare to make noise
What is it that puts you in the mood? Sound. Let’s be honest: you can watch as many sexy scenes as you want, but without sound, the fun is gone. That moaning, the laughter, and the breathing give you the feeling that you’re right there beside it. The same goes for your brain when you’re trying to achieve a hands-free orgasm. Without sound, it’s just boring. A tip from Mariah is that holding back is not an option, no matter how uncomfortable you might feel. Go all in. Moan as loud as you can, occasionally speed up your breathing, and imagine you’re having dirty talk with your crush. Make it as wild as you want. You have to give your body permission to get aroused; otherwise, you can’t build up the tension needed for it. The more you let yourself go, the easier it is to reach an orgasm.
Meditate the right way
Setting up a lo-fi playlist and sitting with your eyes closed for five minutes won’t give you an orgasm. Meditating, specifically for this purpose, you really need to take seriously. If you lie down and just hope something happens, you’ll be waiting a long time. Your own effort is needed to get yourself there. Let go of your thoughts and focus on the feeling of excitement. Don’t force it, but imagine how an orgasm feels. Dream a little and before you know it, it starts to tingle and you slowly build up tension that can ultimately lead to an orgasm.
If it doesn’t work after all your efforts? That’s not so strange at all. To achieve such an orgasm, you really need to get to know and trust your body better. This goes beyond just jumping on someone and trying to get an orgasm as quickly as possible. Don’t see it as a challenge you need to win, but as a way to get to know your own body better. Whether or not you reach such a climax: you will get closer to yourself anyway. You’ll discover better what you like, and who knows, maybe that newly found inner peace and focus will make all your future sexual experiences even better. It can only get better, really.
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