How to deal with a broken heart
A broken heart is something we will all get sooner or later. And that’s always just downright horrible. Whether it was a momentary flame or friendship, if the love is no longer there, well that is just no fun for anyone. However grindingly annoying the cliché is, it is also true: Time heals all wounds. Next to a bit of time, the things below can also be a huge help.
Your girlfriends
Let’s begin with the most important point here: without your girlfriends you will not get through this rocky road of broken heartedness. When my most recent relationship died, crying hysterically, I called my best friend, and through the sobs all I could get out was “iiiiiiit iiiisss oveeeeeeerrr.” She didn’t need much more than that and within 10 minutes the doorbell rang and there she was, standing before my house with five bottles wine (see next point) and three packets of cigarettes (sorry). In the weeks that followed all my friends and family were so heartwarmingly sweet. I could cry endlessly, curse, whine, talk and not a sole person said they couldn’t be bothered to listen to me. You just can’t bottle these horrid emotions up and you need to keep laying every little feeling out on the table.
Wine
Very. Very. Important. Lots of wine and some more. And that is allowed for the entirety of the day. Or, well, almost all of the day. In the time that my heart was broken, I drank until my liver was pickled and it helped tremendously.
Find distractions
Don’t just sit pathetically around the house all day sipping on the bottle. Get yourself up and out there. Fill your days with fun things because a little distraction is so very necessary. Go out for dinner, go to a club, find a festival or I do not know, do what works for you; don’t let yourself drown in your own misery.
The big clean up
This is different for everyone, but for me it helped a bunch to not be constantly confronted by the man that was making me so sad. All photos, gifts, notes or whatever it is that remind you of him, put it in a bag or box and seal it tight. Don’t throw it away because that’s a shame, but it should be just out of sight. I went so far as to buy a new iPhone because I couldn’t help myself but secretly scroll through the old photo’s where the times were good and I drove myself crazy with it. Allow yourself a clean slate.
Book a trip
Because dreaming about a delicious adventure as far away from here as possible, is exactly what you need. Three years ago there were several factors that sent me on an overseas trip and love hassles was one of them. Tally ho, off you go. Just get away. And yes it can be done (especially now!) on your own. Read further to find out why.
Begin a new adventure
In the beginning you probably don’t even want to think about it but the time will come when you are ready for a new partner. A new relationship is quite possibly the absolute last thing on your mind, but no one has ever ended worse up as a result of a little causal fun. Most of all it makes you realize that there are more fish in the sea and even though in those first weeks after The Break you may not think so, it really is so. And who knows, maybe you’ll meet a spunky new flame on the way.
