HOW TO GET RID OF HIM

When you saw him last night you thought: This is the guy. Okay, okay it was 3 am, fairly dark in the club and it was as if the vodka-cola’s were dropping out of the sky, there were so many of them. You exchanged phone numbers with that guy and you wake up the next day with a hangover and you inbox full of messages. From him. How you are doing? Are you hung-over? What your plans are for the day? Hello, HELLO?!?! Right you have to ditch this guy asap.

Well that’s easier said than done. Some men have trouble understanding that whole “she’s just not that into you” thing and hang in there until the bitter end. The situation I described earlier was me once. My reply was rather cold and very short “yes fine here very hung-over bye”, I figured he would get the message. He didn’t. He kept sending me messages for days. You then have two options. Either you just don’t respond, ever (I’ll get back to that) or you send him a very clear message, something like: Yo I had a great time with you last night, but let’s just leave it at that.”

Option number one doesn’t always have my preference. You know the saying: “to ghost out on someone” and that can be really frustrating. It will only take you a minute to inform someone how you stand. And especially if you’ve gone out more than once, if he believes he’s onto something you can’t just let him dangle, poor guy.

So if you’ve been out on more than one date I have to be strict: it’s forbidden to fall of the edge of the earth, or give him that impression. Remember how much you and your friends hate it if men behave this way? The ones that *poof* suddenly disappear, never to be heard from again? Well there’s your reason. Call him, send him a text, just do something and let him know you’ve had a great time but if it were up to you there doesn’t have to be a next time. I literary used that sentence once and it worked a charm. He’ll stumble something about it being “a shame” and maybe ask you “why?” and you can easily respond with an “I don’t want to string you along we’re still at the stage we can end it without having bad feelings about it.” Ka-ching, it’s in the bag. That’s all there is to it.

So, all in all, man up and speak your mind. We expect that from our opponents so set a good example. And if he still doesn’t get the message it will be soon enough for you to never be heard from again. That’ll teach ‘em.