Do you have a narcissistic boss?

Yesterday I wrote the big narcissism checklist to find out whether your manager is a narcissist. Chances are you scored bingo (at least, ticked all the boxes), because the concentration of narcissism is high among people in leadership positions. If you’re dealing with one, it’s important to handle the situation wisely. Or consider looking for another job, because my motto is: better a good boss than a good job.
1. Carry him/her on a pedestal
Your narcissistic boss has an unquenchable thirst for compliments. Give them—but in a way that works in your favor. With a compliment, you might be able to subtly point out what’s missing in the process without making him or her feel attacked. Because criticism? A narcissist doesn’t take that well, and before you know it, you’ll be placed in Camp Enemy.
2. Take notes and document things in emails
Because narcissists have a tendency to twist and bend the truth just a little, it’s wise to document important matters. So take notes and put things in writing via email. If ever—hopefully not—a lawsuit comes up, you’ll have collected evidence, and it won’t just be your word against theirs.
3. Bring someone with you
If you’re having a meeting, make sure someone else is present. That way, you have an additional witness. Alternatively, you could record the conversation—though I understand that might make you feel uncomfortable.
4. Try to maintain distance
Even though you’ll occasionally need to toss the narcissist some bite-sized compliments, you should otherwise keep them at arm’s length. Don’t share too much about your personal life, because that makes you vulnerable. The narcissist isn’t interested in you and will only use that personal information to manipulate you into doing what he or she wants. So be careful.