Things you don't want to hear when it's just over

Whoever says that a root canal treatment is the most painful thing that can happen to a person has never endured a broken heart. Few emotions can be as godforsakenly painful as the feeling of a broken or unrequited love. In the days / weeks after the breakup, you receive support and help from all corners, but sometimes, it doesn't quite happen in the most ideal way. Recognizable for those who have just gone through a breakup and advice for everyone with friends who are tormented by heartache: these are the things you really don't want to hear when it just ended.

Few emotions can be as godforsakenly painful as the feeling of a broken or unrequited love.

 “I never liked him.”

You should never, NEVER say this. Because what if they do get back together, then it will always be awkward because your friend knows that you don't like him. And even if they don't get back together, no one wants to hear that all her tears and sadness for someone are for someone you could never understand could evoke any positive emotions.

“I've been single for a long time and it's really not as lonely as it seems.”

Really not as lonely as it seems. Not so lonely, but still lonely.

SEE?.

“You know what you need, a girls” night! Or a day at the spa!"

Oh yeah, because that's going to solve everything?

“Maybe you're just too picky.”

Yeah, no exactly, it's MY fault. I just need to adjust my demands and standards a bit. Sure, sweetheart.

“My .... is single, something for you?”

Suddenly the whole world has nice single men on offer. Everyone can pull a cousin, neighbor, best friend of anyone out of the hat to make sure you are settled as soon as possible because that phase of being single should be escaped as quickly as possible.

“Luckily you weren't living together / weren't married yet.”

Yeah, no, because THEN my suffering would have been completely justified?

“Now you at least have all the time to focus on yourself.”

I DON'T WANT TO FOCUS ON MYSELF I want to be with HIM.

“Well, it's his loss. You are fantastic.”

You're going to hear this a lot, how incredibly awesome you are and what a fool he is for letting you go. But, if you are really that incredibly awesome, why did you let yourself go in the first place? Which only raises more questions and you already have more than enough worries on your mind.

“Oh you should date older men, it really works wonders.”

But, why? And how much older? And, why? Seriously, how so?