Sexy Friday
11 THINGS YOU CAN RECOGNISE A SEX ADDICT BY
Today, let's kick up against a taboo: that of sex addiction. Did you know that 300,000 people in the Netherlands are addicted to sex? And that it is in the top 3 biggest addictions in our little country? No did you? Neither did I, in fact.
Indeed, due to the large amount of free porn on the internet, the number of sex addicts in the Netherlands is growing. In Hollywood, too, men regularly lash out. How about Eric Benét, who was unfaithful to Halle Berry because of his sex addiction? Or Tiger Woods? We all disapprove, but they are no exceptions to the rule you see, millions of men and women worldwide suffer from this problem. And that's what it is: a problem, a mental illness that is often misunderstood. Do you have a partner who cheats often? Or who is always huge appetite for sex? That does not necessarily mean he/she is addicted to sex. In sex addiction, you have an unhealthy, compulsive and growing need for sexual acts, but actually having sex is not satisfying for you. Seems pretty annoying.
In sex addiction, you have an unhealthy, compulsive and growing need for sexual...
Do you doubt whether your partner, lover, dabbler, whatsoever is addicted to sex? Or maybe you yourself? We're about to find out. A sex addict would score high on the points below:
1. There is a vicious cycle. Continually pushing boundaries sexually and compulsive masturbation is no exception.
2. There is an ingrained pattern.
3. There is an automatism. For example, every day watching porn before bedtime.
4. Sex addiction often goes hand in hand with other problems. Arguments at work, relationships that often break down: the person in question seems to be put in social isolation.
5. People with sex addiction often experience that their bodies need discharge. The ‘act’ itself (oddly enough) does not seem satisfying enough.
6. Sex addiction ‘helps’ avoid real intimacy.
7. Sexual behaviour acts in the addict as self-medication: it helps the negative feelings to be less. Sex is seized upon as a means to forget about problems or to repress insecurity/loneliness.
8. Changing moods occur: the sex addict's state of mind may change suddenly during the day.
Sex addiction ‘helps’ avoid real intimacy.
9. There is often emotional neglect in the sex addict's life history.
10. Under the influence of shame, the sex addict's self-esteem drops.
11. The sex addict often does not seem to know what he/she really needs and how to fulfil this need. He/she wants to stop (excessive) sexual acts, but is unable to do so. In short, the addiction causes various problems in daily life.
Do you recognise yourself or another person in the text above? If so, you may be suffering from sex addiction. And trust me, I'm doing a quick google search and already come across a shitload of sites offering online or face-to-face coaching. For ívery problem there is a solution (look here but). Good luck!
