Fun & Famous

11 X DOING THIS ALL LIKEABLE PEOPLE

Then you meet a nice person and they should go straight into your friends club, so über awesome. Fat chance that you have a likeable person in your grasp. If you are not alone in that opinion, then you have an even better chance that your person of interest has a towering EQ. Do you want to be likeable? Work on your emotional quotient. And this is what people we all love a little bit do.

1. But honestly

Pretending is a no-go. Do you want people to love you? Be real and honest.

2. Thoughtful questions

When you have a conversation, that person is not paying attention at all. People with a high EQ ask thoughtful questions at exactly the right moment. And indeed, then you feel taken seriously (no dirty thoughts).

3. Be open-minded

A judgment does not work in your favor. Do you want to share your story with someone who already has an opinion about you? Nope, be open and (in the beginning) without an opinion.

4. Center of attention-free

A likeable person has a great time just outside the center of attention. So are you bummed that you are not such an extroverted bouncing ball? No worries.

5. Same old, same old

If you know what you have in someone, that gives confidence. Are you hugging someone one day and walking right past them the next day? Then you are not really in the running for being a likeable person. Being consistent in how you are does help.

“Do you want to be likeable? Work on your emotional quotient.”

6. Non-verbal language

You say almost everything with body language. Make eye contact, lean slightly towards someone, and uncross those arms and legs. If you throw in some flair in your tone of voice, then you are the absolute best.

7. 7 seconds

Do you trip over your feet and at that moment spill a cup of coffee in the lap of the ‘new one’? Ouch, bummer. In those crucial first seven seconds, you form an opinion about a person. People then only look for confirmation of that first impression. So try to enter strongly and flawlessly.

8. Name-dropping

Okay, this is a tricky one. I am excellent with faces, but names… My goodness, difficult. Do you want to join the likeables? Then you need to remember that name. And when you meet the person again, you say au naturel: ‘Hi name-of-man-woman.’ But only at the greeting, because if you drop it too often in a chit-chat, it sounds like you are reprimanding.

9. Smile

Do you smile goofily? We mimickers reflect like crazy, so if you smile… Exactly, then we smile. And when you laugh, you feel better. So they associate you with a good feeling.

10. Touch (in a good way)

This one is for the pros. If you give a little squeeze on an arm or a pat on the shoulder exactly on the second, it makes a difference. You go from okay to sky high on the fun meter. When in doubt, don’t do it.

11. In balance

Are you also senang in the balance of work, fun, and entertainment? Then you score high on the likeable ladder. At work, you are serious, but not an overzealous workaholic.

Source: The Huffington Post