Happy & Healthy
6 X NEGATIVE THOUGHTS YOU'D BETTER NOT ALLOW
I am a happy person. A person with everything her heart desires. I have a very nice new house in Amsterdam where the clock ticks like it hasn't ticked in a long time, I have the most fun job that exists, the holidays are coming (gifts! wine! Christmas trees! even more wine!) and that man, he'll come along eventually. My life is already very nice without him.
But what I am most happy about is that I have said goodbye to my negative thoughts. Because I had quite a bit of trouble with them in recent years (they're probably not satisfied with me / his new girlfriend is much prettier / I'll never blablabla). Believe me, after years of being very dedicated and almost professionally negative about all sorts of things, I have come to the bitter conclusion that it does NOTHING for you. Negative thoughts only make you insecure, they block you, they limit your growth, and they prevent you from fully experiencing the beautiful things in life. In any case, you won't get any further with them, and it's really better to train yourself not to allow them anymore. Behold the 6 negative thoughts that I have permanently banished from my life. Now it's your turn!
1. Striving for perfection
When you strive for perfection, you don't enjoy the journey to your goal, but you are too focused on your end goal. I am a perfectionist through and through, yet I have learned to let this go in order to grow. Learn by falling down, getting up, and moving on.
2. Not daring to fail
Too many people think they are destined to fail. By being open to failing, you open yourself up to becoming successful. Fall and get back up. And: what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, remember?
“My life is already very nice without him.”
3. Always or never
There is nothing in life that you always or never do. There will be things you do often or things you don't do often enough. But framing behavior in ‘always’ or ‘never’ is actually just a form of self-pity. It makes you believe that you have no control over yourself and it hinders you in changing yourself.
4. Letting yourself be influenced by others
One thing is certain: no matter what people think or say about you, you are never as good or as bad as they claim. Unfortunately, it is impossible to completely turn off others' reactions, but what you can do is train yourself to take these reactions with a grain of salt. Just try it, your self-worth will shoot up. And that will radiate from you.
5. Letting your past stand in the way
Too many people let the past determine the future. Repeated failure can seriously undermine your self-image. And it can significantly hinder your future. Always remember that you only grow when you look positively at your failures. Pick yourself up to try something again with all your courage.
6. Your emotions vs. reality
Always try to turn your emotions into something positive. Go out the door looking great, wear your favorite perfume, and put an extra blush on your cheeks. You'll see that you'll feel much better. And that compliment from your colleague will only help even more.
