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DO YOU ALSO FIND SPEAKING IN PUBLIC SO EXTREMELY SCARY?
This is how you become a pro
Presenting to a large group of people is about the most exciting thing there is. Five years ago, when I was still sitting in school, I once had such a panicked blackout during a presentation that I just bolted out of the classroom. That little incident haunted me for years, but by now I've overcome my fear of speaking. And I don't need, to put it in May's words, to set up a vodka infusion to counter the nerves.
I'm probably not the only one with public speaking issues, and that's why I have a mini-course on presenting for pros for you here.
This is how you present...
...in a room full of people
Good preparation is half the battle. Write down your main points a few days in advance and hold cards in your hand during the moment to keep track of the thread. Always look at your audience - no matter how scary - and if you notice that you start to ramble nervously: just mention it. It only makes you more likable. Use your hands while talking, don't keep them in your pockets (I did that for a whole speech recently and it looks really DUMB). Also: hair is the best accessory for your self-confidence. So just book that hairdresser appointment, it makes a huge difference, really.
...at your best friend's wedding
It's the most important day of her life and just the idea that you are giving the maid of honor speech already gives you spontaneous spots on your neck. Know that the best speech is concise and lasts no longer than 5 minutes. Don't drink too much beforehand (two glasses is max for the nerves) and avoid too many inside jokes that exclude the audience. Shedding a tear is allowed, sobbing becomes awkward. A few embarrassing stories about your bestie are fine, but keep them light and never let them be about sex. Finally: it's nice if you also say something about the groom, after all, you really do share your best friend with him.
”Know that the best speech is concise and lasts no longer than 5 minutes”
...during a conversation with your supervisor
Okay, maybe not entirely in public, but quite a few people find this pretty nerve-wracking too. The tip? Just remember that your supervisor is just a person too, just like you. And just like you, they want to achieve the best result. Dress powerfully that day (read here about the power of clothing), choose a time when your boss isn't too busy, and be businesslike and polite during the conversation.
Don't make it a long-winded story, but pitch your idea briefly and powerfully and keep the focus on what you want to achieve. And most importantly: trust yourself. Once it's over, you'll be super proud, bet?
Do you have that presentation tomorrow and no time for a decent preparation? Then here are 5 tips to give your confidence a quick boost before you speak.
1. Always stand up straight. Your confidence will grow immediately, even in front of the audience.
2. Smile. Even if you're about to lose it from nerves, physically ensure that your body relaxes.
3. Whatever happens: breathe slowly to calm any signs of fear.
4. Make eye contact with one kind-looking person in particular. If you feel the nerves bubbling up again, it helps to look at that person (don't do it the whole time though, that gets awkward again).
5. Don't forget that the audience wants you to do well. Draw your strength from that. A quote that always helps me? Believe in your inner Beyoncé. And that's just how it is.
