ARGUMENTS THAT EVERY COUPLE HAS

(OR WILL HAVE)

I wrote it before: arguing is good and arguing is healthy. And having a good argument is also an art. And what it mainly is: very normal. The following arguments everyone has, and that is exactly why we women can endlessly complain about them to our friends.

Something with routes

Routes are a fun topic for argument during your first vacation together. I remember a romantic weekend in Paris with a previous love, and while I just wanted to get a little lost and occasionally ask passersby for directions to our restaurant, Mr. had the whole route set in Google Maps and just followed his screen instead of the city. I found that incredibly annoying. So the next evening I said: “No phones, let’s go on an adventure.” With some reluctance, he agreed and of course, we got hopelessly lost, had such a crazy argument at one point, and it was all my fault. “Yeah, well, if I could just take my phone, we wouldn’t have had all this.”

Something with laundry

My feminist heart cannot handle the thought of ever doing my beloved's laundry. He can do that himself or we have someone who does it for us. But it’s a perfect source of irritation if he or you messes up the laundry, especially because in that exact load was his favorite sweater and your favorite pants. Cursing, swearing, and ranting is what I’m telling you.

Something with mobile phones

May once wrote this piece about. It is mega annoying if your beloved is ON HIS PHONE ALL THE TIME. And you might do that yourself too, but that’s different. Duh. Or what do you think about cozy cuddling in the evening in the morning – each on their own iPhone? Say goodbye to romance.

Something with work

You work too much, he works too much, you’re never home, he has too much stress from work and is therefore unbearable; there’s always something. Work takes up such a large part of your life that it inevitably seeps into your relationship. And that can sometimes go wrong.

Something with routine

What started as a fun tradition that you have together can turn into hopelessly boring routine. AGAIN that same restaurant, again that same movie, no one feels like looking for something else or making an effort for change. In short, you’re stuck in the same little circle and that will sooner or later lead to explosive words.

Something with communication

Because you say that there really is nothing, but mean that there is something. Men don’t understand that, so argument. And if he says there’s nothing, there really is nothing, but your female brain will still look for all sorts of things behind that (“what are you hiding from me?!”) and that’s how it all goes wrong.