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LOVE MAKING ON THE FIRST DATE? HELL NO OR HELL YES?

by Lotte Lust

Dear readers. Of course, we write about men and sex. But there are people who know, well, just a bit more about it and, well, write about it just a bit easier. That's why we are rolling out the red carpet for our friends from LotteLust every week., a website that is about everything related to intimacy. Among other things about this week's topic: sex on the first date. If you don't like to do it, at least it's great to talk about it. LotteLust, take it away.

In the Tinder era, hooking up on the first date is no longer that special. But what is the smartest thing to do in dating terms?

LotteLust lays out the pros and cons for you. It’s your choice…

Hell no

DTR-hell (Define The Relationship)

You end up in a weird ‘are we just casual or not?’ relationship. In the modern dating world, it's always uncertain whether the first date will lead to a serious relationship or not. You're on the seesaw: are you heading towards steady or are you automatically just hooking up as soon as you've had sex?

Slut stamp

Even if you said, “I never do this”, some men – I say: some! – quickly think that women who sleep with them on the first date are sluts. You run the risk of being sidelined as just another number in his phone, and not as dating potential.

The hunt

Let him put in some effort for you! Men love to hunt. As emancipated as women are, we don't let them be real MEN often enough. Play a little old-fashioned hard to get. They like that.

Anticipation

Sex is just like a vacation. Often, the anticipation is the most fun part. That tension you maintain after a few dates is what makes it so enjoyable! Taking it a step further until you can completely let go of desire during the moment suprême. Right?

Hell yes

Naughty dream

This is your moment to be the carefree, wild woman. You let no one tell you what you should and shouldn't do and just let yourself go completely. All brakes off.

Test drive

You want to know what kind of meat you have in the pot. A ‘test drive’ can save you a lot of precious time that can be better spent on another nice guy.

LUST! PASSION!

There’s no holding back now. You know that he knows, he knows that you know. You want each other. If you experience this passion at first sight, then you have good sex for life.

Not clicking, but still lifting.

Ouch, during the date you quickly realize that it's not going to happen. You can a) leave early with an excuse and never see each other again or b) just enjoy it, because you won't see each other again anyway. Yet you still find yourselves on the same wavelength...

Whatever you do, the most important thing is that you stand behind it.