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NOTHING WRONG WITH SEX ON THE FIRST DATE

Nothing wrong with sex on the first date. In fact: I advocate for sex on the first date. You know in a split second if you feel sexually attracted to someone and if the evening has been a lot of fun, the flame doesn't go out when the lights in the café go off. So keep the festivities going in the bedroom.

I believe: a great evening is a great night, and desire is desire. You are the master of your own flower and if the bud, calyx, and leaves need to be admired and pollinated, then it is completely legitimate for the gardener to do his utmost to make you bloom immediately. Letting things wilt because otherwise you would be a slut goes against nature; flowers need water.

I know that a lot of people believe that ladies should behave modestly, no matter how much the man insists on promiscuity during a date. But why actually? What is the point? Waiting weeks feels a bit calculating. Well, not even a bit: in the meantime, you are trying to get certainty about someone else's feelings for you before you ‘give’ yourself sexually. But when do you decide that the time is ripe for that, what guarantees do you need for that? And how do you measure that? Three times the Japanese plus a movie on his expense and some flirty texts say nothing about his feelings; it's all part of a game, of which most know very well how to play it to ‘win’ – after which the towel can easily be thrown in the ring again, on to the next game with a new opponent. Then you are left with your clever strategy.

“Fishing for a relationship is not the only motivation to get into bed with someone”

I also suspect that people think that abstinence behavior increases your market value. Something that is hard to get may seem more desirable, but ultimately love only really blooms when it clicks nicely in bed. If that is not the case, then what once seemed so fantastic and worth the effort has mainly cost a lot of time and energy, but it yields you nothing, it is worth no more to you. I don't mean to say that the dating game is about yield, but rather that you would be crazy to think that chastity is a decisive factor in love. Moreover: fishing for a relationship is not the only motivation to get into bed with someone. Just wanting to have a fun night is also a great reason., hereSpontaneity is what it's all about. What is wrong with letting yourself be carried away by the swell of the date, the waves of excitement you feel when the other looks at you intently or shows with a small gesture that he/she is exploding with the lust you have ignited? Consume your desire or infatuation. Getting lost in the moment leads to amazing nights – and.

disappointments , of course, that too, but not more or less than if you had maintained a chastity program for weeks. Just do it, go ahead and have sex. Whether you are looking for quick satisfaction of your desires, a relationship, or true love. You are guaranteed to come away with one richer experience. And maybe even a bit more., Nothing wrong with sex on the first date. In fact: I advocate for sex on the first date. You know in a split second if you feel sexually attracted to….

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