Sexy Friday

IS IT BORING IN THE BEDROOM? HERE'S HOW TO SPICE IT UP

At first, you jumped each other like two wild rabbits and chose the most exciting places and toys. You could have sex no problemo until the sun came up and still show up fruity at work. Now, years later, your love life could use a little spicing up. Sound familiar?

Then this is the step-by-step plan to fix things:

Step 1: Improve your communication

I can be brief about this: just honestly express what you like, or dislike, or find sexy. Talk about it. If there’s no communication, you can whistle for that firework.

Step 2: No, you are no longer ‘busy busy busy’

A demanding job, a busy social life, possibly kids... Many couples barely have time for each other anymore. Well, it’s no wonder that your sex life is on the back burner. Want to work on it? That often means making more time for each other first and foremost.

Step 3: First, get better in bed yourself

Are you pointing fingers at your partner? Is he/she boring? Maybe your libido has also taken a hit, my friend. Take some more time for foreplay, tease each other, and make a list of exciting ideas you want to try in the bedroom (or outside of it).

Step 4: Get an abundance of energy for sex

Energy is the fuel for a fruitful and successful relationship. Always feeling lethargic? Check where you’re wasting your energy. Start exercising more, eat healthier, and bet that you’ll automatically feel more in the mood for sex?

Step 5: Give more compliments

And especially the compliments you normally don’t give. Reward your partner with a few nice sentences, even if he/she is lazy in bed. With encouragement, everyone gains more self-confidence.

Step 6: Stop that routine sex

Vary with extremely long foreplay, try out new positions, go buy a sex toy together, surprise your partner naked on the couch when he/she comes home, try anal sex, DO SOMETHING.

Step 7: Ask the other about his/her fantasies

Wouldn’t we live in an ideal world if your partner always immediately senses what your wildest dreams are? Ask your love what he/she finds super sexy. Who knows, you might come up with ideas you’d never think of yourself. Happy humping!