Sexy Friday

WHAT WE CAN LEARN FROM LESBIAN SEX

A few months ago it was all over the news: lesbian women are more likely to have orgasms than heterosexual women. Somehow, lesbians seem to have it all figured out during sex. I immediately think of a week ago when I was having wine with a good friend. She started talking about watching porn with her boyfriend and how she actually finds male porn quite disgusting. The hardcore videos where men just casually penetrate a vagina, no, that was just not for her. Way too unkind to women and just not sexy at all.

“Then I actually prefer to watch porn with two women, is that weird?”, she asked me. “Does that make me a little bit lesbian?” I don’t think so. In fact, several large studies show that over half of all Dutch women have fantasized about sex with another woman at some point. Just to try it out. And because it all seems so soft and so on. And that’s why it’s time for a mini-course on what we can learn from women’s love. Because it’s more than you think.

Take a little more time for each other

Research has also been done on this: two women between the sheets spend more time on each other's pleasure than a man and a woman together. No less than twenty minutes more. I think that’s quite a significant difference.

Don’t make penetration the main act

Well, that’s easy to say when there’s no penis in the game. But because penetration is not necessarily the main thing for lesbian women, much more time is spent on the little things. Kissing, playing, caressing, teasing, that’s what women secretly crave much more.

“Then I actually prefer to watch porn with two women, is that weird?”

In short: don’t be rushed

Lesbians know better than anyone that it sometimes takes women a little longer to warm up. So hey, if there are men reading along: think about that before you want to just shove it in. Want to score points? Then do a ‘Douwe Bobje‘: slow down, brother.

Pay more attention to the clit

In women’s love, the playful part is largely focused on the clit. And we women know: most of us can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Ah, so that immediately explains those high orgasm rates among lesbians. They are mostly in the heat of the moment! Handy...

Ensure better communication

It seems that gay girls are also more likely to express what they enjoy in bed. Probably because they think the other understands this better since she is also, uh, a woman. And this also leads to, you guessed it, more fireworks in the bedroom and ooh- and aah-moments.

I would say: heterosexuals, take advantage of this. Slide this article under his nose and then go have sex like two wild lesbian rabbits. Have a nice weekend...