Happy & Healthy

THIS IS HOW YOU GET YOUR OWN LIFE BACK ON PRIORITY

In three steps

So I had to say ‘yes’ to the following four questions recently. What a hell. Check it out.

1. Do you often feel like there are ‘only’ 24 hours in a day? 2. Do you feel slightly overworked or half-crazy from all the tasks waiting for you? 3. Do you often say ‘yes’ out of a sense of duty while feeling ‘no’? 4. And do you sometimes feel that you are busybusybusy, but not particularly productive?

Well, those were four checkmarks for me. Do you recognize yourself in the text above? Then read on quickly, because here are the three top tips/steps on how to regain control over your own life. The idea is that you ultimately become a essentialist to an idea by writer Greg McKeown.

Step 1.

More is not always more. Or better. I am currently really running around like crazy behind all the things to do. From the idea that doing a hundred things is cool or something. From the idea that I will get hit hard if I say no to something. But... I have realized that this is a huge thinking error. You don't build a career by running the hardest. And in your private life, it doesn't get any more fun/better if you are always out of breath. It's time to say no. To learn to see that some things are not necessary. Because they don't fit you. Because you don't have time for them. Because they are just trivial to you. And not vital.

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Step 2.

It is seriously important that you learn to accept that the secret lies in saying no. In doing fewer things. No matter how scary it is and how afraid you are that people will hate you very much. You will actually do the things you do better than before, and that is of course scoring points. Moreover, it is fun to do them, because you have consciously chosen them yourself.

Step 3.

One of the things Greg McKeown says is this: ‘If you don’t design your life, someone else will. If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.’ I found that to be a huge eye-opener. Just the idea alone. I mean; isn't it strange that you give up control over your own life, while that is totally excluded in many other areas of your life? You shouldn't even think about the fact that everyone except you will decide what you should wear tomorrow morning? Or that everyone except you will decide which TV series you watch tonight? Or which chocolate you eat? Well then! Let's get to work!

Sources: Levo.com and JeffSanders.com

Read more about this topic in the book Essentialism: de gedisciplineerde zoektocht naar minder.

Written by: Renske Hoff