All the difficult but important things I learned in 2017
I don't make New Year's resolutions. However, I do enjoy making lists about everything and anything. I take the example of when I turned 28 last summer and then thought about everything I have learned in my twenty-eight years on this planet, such as the fact that John Mayer has written a matching song for every emotion you can have and that you should never date a man who doesn't like truffles. I'm telling you: these are real life lessons. Anyway, 2017 is coming to an end and today the topic of my list is: all the difficult things I have learned over the past year, but which have actually been very good for me:
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In terms of love, you will always meet people with whom feelings are not mutual. And yes, you will feel really bad about this, you will tell yourself a thousand times that you will never open up to anyone again, but don’t do it. There is always a silver lining and just when you least expect it, a boy stands in front of you and then all previous heartbreaks are forgotten.
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I often found it annoying to see people getting upset over minuscule things in life. Things where I personally often thought: come on, there are worse things in life and at least you haven't lost your father to cancer; that is truly bad. But you shouldn't compare situations, everyone experiences their own kind of sadness. Just let them know that you are there for them when they need you.
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You shouldn't be afraid to try new things in your life. Yes, security is nice to have (in terms of work, in terms of living), but have the courage to seize new opportunities, even if they are far outside your comfort zone. And suppose it doesn't work out, so be it. In English, they always say ‘better an oops than a what if’ and they are right.
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I need to work even harder on my persuasive power and charisma. I don't mean to say that I don't have both traits yet, on the contrary, I am just more aware that if you want to get far in terms of work and nice people around you, both traits are essential. Charisma helps you meet new people and persuasion (in the right way) helps you substantiate and maintain everything.
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A nice cliché, but patience is a virtue. The problem for me is that I am either always too early or just on time, and I assume that others are the same. That is not the case, which makes me very quickly annoyed and that annoyance leads to an unnecessary change in mood. While I am waiting, I just need to come up with ways to be productive myself. Think of emails that haven't been answered yet, a phone call that you keep postponing; basically everything you will encounter in point seven.
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What you resist, persists. Resisting things only makes everything worse. Instead of constantly feeding and enlarging something, you need to fight against it. So yes, also against all those blue envelopes that end up in your mailbox. Don’t leave it to the last minute.
So, now it's time to get ready for one big party at my place, because I may not be one for New Year's resolutions, what I do know for 2018 is that I want to spend even more time with the fun people in my life. Cheers.
