How to become more dominant in bed
The guide
No guy gets excited about a sack of potatoes between the sheets. Yes, even our true Dutch men don't. We mentioned it earlier in this article: a passive, insecure, and quiet mouse is a major dealbreaker between the sheets. So come on, give yourself a slap with the whip and grab those reins out of his hands. LotteLust explains how to take the lead in bed and wrap him around your finger.
You are what you wear
You really don't have to transform into a Christian Grey with a latex outfit, tight ponytail, whip in one hand, and strap-on dildo in the other. Hell no. But a bit of tension in your outfit is a must. Because as an Amayzine reader, you know: the right power outfit gives your confidence a significant boost. So make sure you exude dominance. Black lingerie, a pair of pumps, a tight dress, and not to forget: a determined look in your eyes. Then your boyfriend will know exactly what time it is...
Know what you want
Lying there like a dead bird is nice and easy and also safe. You don't have to doubt what he likes or be afraid that he finds your suggestions weird. You let yourself be moved into various positions like a kind of doll. “Do this. Do that.” Fine, you're lying comfortably. Admit it: after a while, this becomes super boring, for him and for you. To be more dominant in bed, you need to know what turns you on. You can do this by experimenting with yourself, but also by taking a moment to think about what you find the most enjoyable moments in a sexual encounter.
Know what he wants
But okay. You don't have sex alone. Moreover, being dominant not is equal to being selfish. So definitely keep ‘giving’ in mind. If you know well what drives him crazy, you can take the lead with more confidence. Read this article about men's turn-ons in bed and surprise him with these moves.
Take initiative
Don't wait for him to suggest a sexual encounter. Take the first step, that's already a good start to taking the lead in bed.
Make the decisions
Where you do it. Which positions you do and in what order. When you come and how. When he comes and how. If he suggests something, say: ‘No, I know something better.’ It might take some getting used to for him, but a woman who knows what she wants... many men find that hotter than hot.
Girl on top
Doggy style is one of the favorite positions of men. So you can skip this one if you want to take the lead. In missionary, you also have little power as a woman. Girl on top is the position to fully take control. First, read 5 tips on how to become a star in this position.
Tie him up
If your boyfriend is also a dominant type in the bedroom, blindfold him and/or tie him up and have your way with him.
