5 biggest dealbreakers for men in bed

By Lotte Lust

What should you absolutely not do in bed according to men? LotteLust names five things that turn men off enormously between the sheets.

No initiative

This is probably the biggest annoyance for men, when they encounter a woman in bed who lies there like a starfish. With an attitude like: do what you want, I'll wait until it's over. Men find it important that you also enjoy the sexual encounter. Otherwise, they might as well just watch a porn movie and take matters into their own hands. Need inspiration? Here you will find men's favorite sex positions.

Insecurity

What do men find most attractive about a woman? That she exudes confidence. So also in bed. If you are insecure about your body, he will sense that immediately. Only wanting sex with the lights off is also a major dealbreaker for him. Men are visual. He wants to admire your naked body. Believe us, he doesn't care about your dimples. So show that you deserve to be there, that you are a sexy woman, and that he can feel like the luckiest man on earth by sharing the bed with you. For him, ten others. Figuratively speaking, of course.

Men find it important that you also enjoy the sexual encounter

Overgrowth

The times of the 70’s bush are really over. If a man has to search for your clitoris, he will be done quickly. Now there are certainly exceptions, but most men find all that hair down there completely unappealing. So trim that area.

Biased

Most men have no trouble talking about sex. Women, on the other hand, often do. A man finds it fantastic when a woman is open-minded and for example, doesn't react weirdly to his suggestion to take the artist entrance for a change. It can be a major turn-off for a man if a woman never wants to try anything new in bed. Need tips? Read here how to surprise him in the bedroom.

Quiet little mouse

Pleasing a woman in bed is already no easy task, so if she also keeps her lips tightly closed, he has no idea if he is doing well. Men also need reassurance in bed, perhaps even more than we women do. A little ego boost maybe? He wants to know if you are enjoying it. And certainly if that is not the case, so he can do something else that you do like. So let him know when he is ‘hot’, you will reap the benefits too.

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