Happy & Healthy

I WISH YOU A LONG AND
HAPPY FOREPLAY

During your weekday sex, you just want to the starfish hang out (Renske does and so do you, admit it). On the weekend, you can't be tamed and want to claw and roll around in the blankets as long as you can. Right? Then you pull out the massage oil and the like from the secret drawer and the action is ON.

Ha, did you think so? A man wouldn't be a man if he didn't go straight for his goal. And in doing so, he sometimes rushes past the most fun part, aka the foreplay. And that's a shame, really a big shame. It feels a bit like running a marathon without a warm-up. Here’s a water bottle, there are your shoes, and now run like hell. In short: you need to be prepared for it. Sure, you can do some foreplay yourself, but with him, it becomes a lot more interesting.

Getting things hot is by the way particularly good for your climax. A croissant is after all tastier if it has been in the oven long enough. Yes, I compare your sex life to the baking process of a French delicacy, yes. Anyway, a grand finale is absolutely in the foreplay. It increases the chance of an orgasm and decreases the chance of premature ejaculation. Win-win. Hallelujah, how can you forget something this important? You can't. I thought so too. Just don't. In practice, however, things are a bit different, because that's where people often forget it. And that's strange, because men find foreplay just as important as women do. So see it as a compliment that he wants to get right to it.

“Happy foreplay!”

When a man thinks about sex, he is immediately in a state of readiness. And even if a woman is in the mood for some fun, her body is not immediately ready for battle. We women need to be warmed up (yes yes, that baking process wasn't such a crazy thought). The average foreplay, if there is any, lasts about 13 minutes. Too short, most think, it should be increased to 18 minutes. I would say: round that up and you have twenty endless minutes for interesting games.

But what do you mean by foreplay? Dr. Doe, a sexologist who explains a lot and especially very detailed things about sex in her YouTube series Sexplanations, says that everything can be foreplay. That he lights a candle while you let the dog in... Or that you brush your teeth together plus suggestive glances. A role play maybe? So definitely not just kissing, fiddling, caressing the oh-la-la zones, or oral sex. Oh yes, oral sex is actually seen by many lovers as an essential part of the foreplay, for your information. Her tip? Don't make sex more important than foreplay, because it's just as fun.

Also want to play a bit longer before the big moment? Tell him what you like and what seems fun to you (this works, says Dr. Doe). And if he still doesn't get that you need to get in the mood; the explanation about the baking process of the croissant may hereby be used. Happy foreplay!