THIS IS HOW YOU DEAL WITH UNREQUITED LOVE
I've mentioned it before. Perhaps the mostpainful form of heartbreakis that of unrequited love. So that's unreciprocated love. Either you are crazy about someone but they are not about you, or you had a long relationship but the other person's love for you fades away. Whatever way you put it, it just hurts. You start to doubt yourself immensely and become quite insecure. Sometimes the feeling just isn't there. Don't take this too personally because really, as cliché as it is, sometimes it really is about him and not about you.
Dealing with a love that is not mutual? Here’s a step-by-step plan to get over it as quickly as possible:
1. Accept it
Easier said than done, I know. But you can't do otherwise. He doesn't feel the same as you do and you shouldn't think that you can just change that. And by the way, you shouldn't want to either, right? You want someone who will go for you unconditionally, right? Not someone who doubts or needs time to see if he feels the same. So that. Accept it and onto the next one, girl.
2. Take distance
You might not want to, but not doing it is unhealthy. Don't text, don't go to places where you know you'll run into that person. Go discover new places with your besties, then you'll also meet new people and hey, maybe even a boy who actually likes you.
3. Enjoy the single life
If you're crazy about someone but they're not about you, it can sometimes feel the same as a heavy breakup (even though you never had a relationship). That's why the same tactic works here as with a breakup. Earlier today you could read about my movie tips to get over your ex (in this case not your ex, but you get it). Or eat your heartbreak away with this brilliant cake.
4 Make that person less appealing than you thought they were
Write down everything that was actually totally not nice about him. Those ugly shoes, his messy house, his weird hairstyle, strange clothes… According to Adeline, this genuinely helps if you want to get over someone.
5. Start dating again
Then you'll immediately notice that there are more nice guys than just him. A tip from me and Simoon: a weekend in London is also really great. The guys there are to die for. Unbelievably handsome and polite and also ridiculously well-dressed. You'll be over him in no time. But be warned; soon you'll feel the urge to move.
