What is the big deal about sex during your menstruation?

Apparently, there was a whole menstruation controversy surrounding Fifty Shades of Grey. The book scene in which Christian Grey pulled out Anastasia's tampon just before sex could absolutely not be included in the film. No discussion possible. Hollywood, sex, and blood? Not a good combination in the glamorous world, according to the director. But what about in the real world? I interviewed a number of honest people about the whole phenomenon: sex while you're on your period. And what turns out: opinions vary.

I start with my group of friends. Friend A casually chimes in: “Why not? It actually helps to blow off some steam when I'm mega grumpy.” Friend B agrees: “You can still take it into account, right? Otherwise, I wouldn't be able to do anything for five days a month, even if I'm super horny, haha.” I pour some more wine. Wine helps with these kinds of conversations. “I'm not ashamed of it, you know. All women get their period, right? Men ejaculate. So what?” Friend C interjects: “One word: shower sex. Please. A little lubricant and go for it.” She has a point, it had to be said.

“Why do people make such a big deal out of it? And why is there hardly any normal conversation about it without everyone getting all weird?” I wonder aloud. “Uh, well, I once made a gigantic stain on the white duvet cover of a fling and it was so embarrassing that I have a trauma from period sex,” I hear from the right. Yes, the men were also put to the test. “Mwah, I don't really have a problem with it, as long as we're not reenacting a murder scene.” Touché.

For a week, I presented ‘the menstruation question’ to practically every human being in my surroundings and almost everyone gave me the answer that it indeed happened. Okay, aside from the girl with the trauma (yep, you know who you are). The global conclusions after some solid field research?

– 1: In the first two days when the red flag is really flying, most women seem to have a bit less desire and are more reserved.

– 2: But also, oh yes, if you're really horny; who gives a shit? Towels underneath and go. Most men agree too.

– 3: Almost everyone mentioned it: the shower story turns out to be a classic. In short, most people don't let a little blood ruin the bedroom atmosphere.

Still nice to finally have some clarity on that. Case closed.

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