Why it is actually good if you find your partner annoying

Again no message letting him know that he will be home late... 1*&^!#^43#$! Sometimes getting into each other's hair, it's not that bad.

 
Because a surprising study published in TIME shows that couples who can bicker well with each other actually have a good relationship. That sounds a bit contradictory, but according to psychologists, it's better to complain freely. It shows that you can truly be yourselves with each other. No false appearances and bottling up all irritations, you dare to honestly curse and rant.

 
So I can come home just fine after a day at work and even before the door has slammed shut, I blurt out first: “Why aren't you asking how that IMPORTANT conversation went this afternoon?!” Not very cozy, but it is what it is. By the way, in such cases, I often get the question bounced back: “How did your conversation go this afternoon?”, to which I then have no desire to respond. And then we sit silently, looking at our phones, on the couch.
According to relationship coach Kira Asatryan, arguing is a must-have for your relationship. It primarily shows that you care about each other. Of course, when the dishes are flying around the house, you won't immediately associate that with roses and moonlight. Yet it is a pure sign of love. After all, if that person doesn't interest you at all anymore, you won't bother to argue.

 
In fact; it's better to have steam coming out of your ears than to never argue. And this obviously applies not only to your partner. This fact is also true in friendships: those who matter to you can also hurt or irritate you more quickly. Does your best friend cancel at the last minute again? You get annoyed with her precisely because you actually just like being together. Otherwise, you would have felt relieved with that unexpected ‘free evening’, right? So don't worry if you sometimes want to stick your loved ones behind the wallpaper.

 
I don't know if my boyfriend is happy with this research - but I am. At least I don't have to hold back when he forgets something very IMPORTANT again. All for a good cause, darling.

 
FACTS

Here are the most common reasons couples argue:

• Money
• (In-law) family
• Spending free time together or just alone (or with your own friends)

(Source: Huffington Post)

Written by Tessa Heinhuis