WHY SUCCESSFUL WOMEN HAVE MORE SEX PARTNERS
My daughter is dating. There were two candidates who fought for her just the way you want it (I even believe it came to a fistfight) and after a weekend of worrying, pondering, and weighing pros and cons, she made her choice. She remained friends with one, while she crowned the other as her beloved. When she had been sick for a week, he brought her a rose on Friday. My daughter is seven.
So it happened that I suddenly found myself in a real conversation. About men. That she shouldn't let herself be chosen, but should think for herself about who she wanted. Because these two could fight for her in such a romantic medieval way, maybe she liked that other boy much better. Suddenly I heard myself say that she should also be a little careful with herself. Last year she was already in love with X, now she is dating Y. “Of course, you shouldn't be too easy with the boys.”
“When she had been sick for a week, he brought her a rose on Friday. My daughter is seven.”
I had just said it. What we generations have been taught. Because the worst thing that can happen to you is that you become ‘a licked sandwich’. I don't even know if my mother pressed this upon me so often, but man, was I careful with the boys. I waited long after the voting age for my first time. Because if I did it, it had to be with someone I really cared about. Well, that one had seen enough after one time. That must have been a bit disappointing for someone my age.
How unliberated is it to save yourself for that one? My French friends with a much higher partner ratio know how to deal with that. “You have to taste to know what you like, right?” I don't know if scientific research has been done on this, but I firmly believe that there is a causal relationship between a woman's success and the number of men she has been with.
During a next speech to my daughter, I will swallow my Calvinistic words, say that she should make sure she is safe, and conclude with a: go forth and enjoy. When she is sixteen, that is. At least.
