Why the cuddle conversation is important in a relationship

Do you remember that time our Rens talked about being a starfish in bed (so funny, you have to read this)? Well, being a starfish doesn't necessarily only have to do with sex; it also just means that you take up the whole bed when you sleep and your poor partner has to make do with a small corner somewhere in bed. Terror in your relationship, no joke. Because with little sleep, you can say goodbye to your sex life and even to a cozy relationship (no sleep = mega grumpy, you know it).

Enter: the cuddle conversation. Perhaps the most important conversation in your relationship. Dr. Robert Oexman, an expert on sleep and affiliated with the Sleep to Live Institute, says: ’People who get a good amount of sleep feel better, look better, and their health is also much better.’ Yes, logical, I know that too, but in short: more sleep = more dateable. Are you dating someone who wants to cuddle excessively and makes you lie awake because your partner is comfortable but you are not, or do you have a little starfish, then it's time to have the most important discussion of your relationship.

Little sleep, hardly any sex

If you lie next to someone in bed who has no sense of sharing a bed or someone who lies around you all night like a koala; tip to have this conversation right away. And don't forget to mention that sleep makes you even better in bed (here what tips to make it more wild in the sack). You’ll find out right away if someone values starfish more than a good sex life. If so: bye, bye.

A compatible sleep style leads to a longer relationship

It's not that you never have to cuddle with your partner again, but just indicate that after about ten minutes you will turn over so you can fall asleep. ’Independent sleepers’ is what Dr. Robert Oexman calls it, and if you hope to grow old with your love, do this.

Address the problem

Does one snore too much so you can't sleep a wink all night? Yes, lying on the couch is an option, but come on, that’s not fair. Not very sexy, but try one of those anti-snoring bands or a snoring mouthpiece. And are you accidentally sleeping next to someone who always wraps themselves in a blanket making you shiver next to them? Then get to work with two blankets. I used to do that all the time when I lived with someone; delightful. The sleeping starfish? Well, a bit trickier. Maybe it's time for a bigger bed? Or build a sort of wall between you with pillows? No idea, actually. Does anyone have a golden tip for this?

Happy sleeping!

Source: Thrillist