Pain during sex: how to deal with it
When we talk about sex, we prefer to share only positive stories. Limp penises, (too) short sex sessions, and dry spells lasting several months are topics we’d rather avoid. Pain during intercourse is also a taboo that the world has yet to overcome. Do you sometimes say ‘ouch’ more than ‘ooh’ in bed? LotteLust tells you the causes and solutions.
Types of pain
It’s good to know that there are various types of sexual pain. It can be superficial (at the vaginal opening) or deep (in the lower abdomen). The pain can occur during sex, but can also persist afterward. Some women experience it all the time, while others have it occasionally.
Long foreplay
Did you know that women need at least twenty minutes to be fully turned on? Your vagina needs some time to dilate and become moist. If sex is painful, it may mean you need to caress, kiss, cuddle, etc., for longer to be fully ready for sex. Read why long foreplay is so important.
Relax
You’ve probably heard it many times: relaxing is the most important thing between the sheets. It’s really true. If you go in with a stressed body and mind, you’re less in the moment. That tension also resides in your pelvic floor muscles. If you tense them too much, penetration can be painful. Keep breathing well and calmly, and stay in the moment.
Set your boundaries
A little pain can be nice, but only if that’s your thing. Too rough, too wild, or too deep? No woman loves uterine boxing. Always indicate if you find something too intense. Then he can tone it down.
When bigger isn’t better
We always think that a well-endowed man is the ultimate pleasure. Well, we can tell you: that’s not the case for every woman. Too big exists as well. It’s important not to force it, but to take your time.
Headaches after sex
Even when you’re done with sex, pain can still occur: headaches. Here’s why and what you can do about it., you can read here.
When should you see a doctor?
Sometimes you can do little against painful sex. For example, with hormonal changes, menopause, an STI, skin irritations, and with vaginismus. This affects your mucous membranes and causes dryness ‘down there’. Go to the doctor for reassurance if the above tips don’t help.
