Science says: this is how devastating ‘faking’ is for your sex life

To get it over with quickly or not to hurt the other; there are different reasons to fake an orgasm, but ideally there would be zero arguments. ‘Faking’ turns out to be detrimental to the health of your sex life. LotteLust explains why.

Uh… awkward situation: new university research shows that a quarter of men think their girlfriend orgasms more often than she actually does. The difference lies in the faking, of course.

No Pinocchio

The problem is that faking often doesn't stop at one time, says sex and relationship therapist Kate Moyle. Some women feel the pressure to pretend to orgasm again. Communicating about what you actually enjoy in bed then becomes a big problem. ‘Huh, but you orgasmed... right?’ It's better to be honest from the first moment. ‘The woman thinks: I can't say that I didn't reach orgasm, you have to try something else, while the other thinks that the woman is having a good time and that you are doing well,’ Moyle told The Guardian.

Talk that talk

The key is to talk. Communicating a lot and well is not for nothing one of the four secrets of a good relationship. That's easier said than done, of course. How and when do you bring up the topic of ‘better sex’ without hurting the other? With these 10 tips talking about sex with your partner becomes fun and easy.