Sex in a long relationship: this will be different
Holding hands, stealing kisses, and spending hours in bed: at the beginning of your relationship, you could hardly keep your hands off each other. It's hard to imagine that now that you enjoy having the bed to yourself every now and then. According to LotteLust, sex also changes in long relationships. The following things change.
Personal care
During your first dates, you did your utmost to look as beautiful as possible. You styled your hair, put on a bit of lipstick, pulled out your prettiest clothes, and shaved from head to toe. He put on a nice fragrance, smoothed his shirt, and made sure there were no stubble to be seen. But now that you know each other well, you often see each other ‘au naturel’ (read: unwashed in your casual clothes). You only dress up when you have a special occasion planned. There's nothing wrong with that, as you have also become each other's best friends. But... it can also be fun to wait for him in a nice lingerie set for no special reason, right? This is the ideal lingerie for your figure.
The frequency
From spontaneous sex in strange places to hours of lovemaking and slowly undressing each other is a thing of the past. Whether the butterflies have turned into ‘loving each other’, you have other priorities, or simply lack time: these things change. Sex is more often scheduled, always happens in bed where you lie down naked in advance... And texts no longer revolve around what you find sexy about each other, but about where or what you're going to eat tonight and which household chores still need to be done.
Being together
It is well known that relationships change once couples share a love nest. This mainly has to do with the fact that many couples think they see each other so often that quality time becomes unnecessary. Nothing could be further from the truth! Seeing each other daily does not mean that you are truly together. Although doing household chores together and collapsing on the couch strengthens your bond, it is also important that you spend time together outside, otherwise, you will quickly fall into the well-known sex rut... Tip: this is how you keep your sex life fun when living together.
The tension
Cliché, but true. You become so accustomed to each other and each other's bodies that the tension is hard to find at some point. It's not surprising if foreplay always consists of the same scenes and you never try a different position. A change of pace works wonders, even in the bedroom. Keep challenging, seducing, and surprising each other. And especially keep experimenting with each other to keep your sex life exciting.
Are the above points quite recognizable? With these 5 tips, you can increase the sexual tension in your long relationship.
