Surprising ideas to keep your long relationship exciting
Readers who have been in love for four years or longer know the struggles of a long relationship. Earlier, you showed each other every corner of the room(s) and now you prefer Netflix, Instagram, and/or sleep over a quickie. Where did it go wrong? Don't worry, it happens to everyone in a relationship. The biggest challenge of long relationships is keeping your sex life exciting. If you want to work on that, you quickly fall into cliché ideas like ‘wait for him at home in red lingerie on a bear skin by the fireplace’. That's why LotteLust shares four not-boring ideas to shake things up.
The bed is off-limits
Is the setting for your sex session always the bed? Nice and comfy, but that kind of routine is killing the excitement. Set a new golden rule for the coming month: you can have sex anywhere, except in bed. This tip is not only easy to implement, it also forces you to be creative and try new things in a fun way. And that last part is just the must for a spicier sex life. Need inspiration? Check these creative sex spots.
Sex challenge
Fourteen days of having sex every day. And yes, even when you don't feel like it. Don't expect every romp in this challenge to be amazing. The goal is not to have mind-blowing sex every day, but to really focus on each other for a little bit every day, even if it's just for ten minutes. You have to make an effort half the time, but it's worth it in the end. While you used to think: ‘ugh, we'll do it tomorrow’, you'll notice during and after such a challenge that the threshold to roll around together lowers.
No sex challenge
Many sexologists give this advice to couples with a depleted sex life: don't touch each other.
Uh, what? That's right. No kissing, no spooning, not even a high-five. By not touching each other, the desire will actually grow more. After five days, you start with light touches, caresses, and after ten days you can take the next step, but the orgasm must be withheld. After fifteen days, you can go all the way again. With this ‘technique’, you rebuild the sexual tension you lost and you'll tear each other's clothes off when it finally becomes allowed again. Fireworks guaranteed! Also read 4 tips to increase sexual tension.
Sex idea box
Write down different positions, fantasies, sex spots, and other sex moves on dozens of notes together with your lover and put them in a box or jar. Make sure you don't know what each other has written, so it remains a surprise. Agree that you will pick a note from the box every week or two weeks and do what it says. It’s a bit like using sex dice, but less tacky and more fun, because you can add your personal touch to it.
Need more tips? Also read these 4 tips to surprise your boyfriend.
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