This is absolutely the craziest thing about buying a wedding dress

I am out and know exactly what I want to wear on the big day at the end of May. Of course, my dress is white and elegant, feminine, charming, and yet very much wedding-in-2018-style.

Or well, that's what I think. Because, uh, when you buy a wedding dress, this is the case: you try on your dress, let's say, maybe twice. A few minutes. First with a friend, then with your mother, mother-in-law, or sister present. After everyone's approval, you order the most important outfit of your romantic life, you say goodbye to the lady in the store politely and you hoist yourself back into your jeans and thick turtleneck. And yes, then you don't see that dress again. Until about four months later. This is no joke. Somewhere in November, I bought my dress. It's now floating somewhere between South Africa (because that's where it has to come from) and Amsterdam. Sounds very interesting, a designer from Africa, but the fact is that it takes quite a long time before the dress that it's all about is within reach. I have no idea what my dress looks like anymore. And that stresses me out, yes.

Here's the thing. In the store, I was told that it's better not to take photos of the dress when I was trying it on. First of all, because you can doubt your choice less, because you can't keep seeing it and thus comparing it with other photos of other dresses. doubtabout your choice, because you can't keep seeing it and thus comparing it with other photos of other dresses. Furthermore, you can keep your outfit better a secret, because you simply have no visual material to show your friends. You don't have to lie about that. But yes. It has now become a very big surprise, so to speak. Because I don't really know anymore myself. Of course, I can still remember the big lines, but my god, what did I order? What does that neckline look like again? How does that skirt fall? What shade of white is it? Off-white, cream, pastel, ice, snow? I don't know. How can I not know this, as a bride?#!$!%!2^%@ I can tell you that getting married brings quite a bit of uncertainty.

In a few weeks, I should receive a message from the Amsterdam wedding shop and I can come back to try it on again. Now let's hope they have brought the right dress from Africa, because I can't see the difference between dress 1 or dress 2, I'm afraid. And I will really take a photo in that fitting room, even if it's not allowed. This won't happen to me again. I think it's off-white, yes. I'm sure. Almost.

FACTS

• In the past, all women married in a yellow dress. Yellow symbolized a new start, prosperity, and happiness.
• 8 out of the 10 couples live together before they get married
• 81 percent of newlyweds go on a honeymoon

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